Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch (Post 23168978)

In my experience and observation of others, exes can't be friends. It's like you used to own a car. But now for whatever reason you had to downgrade to only renting it for half a month every month. Can you take it? How will you feel knowing that not too long ago you could have driven the car anywhere anytime without needing to share it with anybody else or be unable to access it at will?

You value your marriage and your relationship with your kids, let this KTV girl break up with you cleanly and for good. Don't try to keep her as a friend. Nobody will think better of you for doing so. You just look like a weak man who wants something but can't afford to buy it, so you go and walk past the shop with the item displayed in the window every day just to look at it.

Originally Posted by benjm85 (Post 23170654)

Thanks bro. You really give me a good piece of advice.
I really need to wake up quickly. I have been like a walking zombie ever since she broke up with me. Not only I can’t get over the memories i had with her (all the dates we had, overseas holiday etc), but also the money I had spend on her. Maybe thats the reason why I can’t easily let go.

I will stop checking on her on social media and move on.

Originally Posted by dman19 (Post 23178849)

yes moving on in important especially you have commitments. it is quite likely you will meet the next one (during your upcoming chionging) to replace her status in your heart.

Originally Posted by benjm85 (Post 23182691)

Im not sure how easy to replace her status in my heart. I have been chionging for so many years, met countless of girls all touch and go nia. Only this girl manage to go deeper into my heart.
But anyway will try to move on since I have family too.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 23183017)

have you tried looking for other ladies so you can change your focus?

I did that when I went through a break up, it helped to be in the arms of another person, even if it wasn't the one I had feelings for, eventually the sadness subsided.

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch (Post 23168978)

In my experience and observation of others, exes can't be friends. It's like you used to own a car. But now for whatever reason you had to downgrade to only renting it for half a month every month. Can you take it? How will you feel knowing that not too long ago you could have driven the car anywhere anytime without needing to share it with anybody else or be unable to access it at will?

You value your marriage and your relationship with your kids, let this KTV girl break up with you cleanly and for good. Don't try to keep her as a friend. Nobody will think better of you for doing so. You just look like a weak man who wants something but can't afford to buy it, so you go and walk past the shop with the item displayed in the window every day just to look at it.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 23183017)

have you tried looking for other ladies so you can change your focus?

I did that when I went through a break up, it helped to be in the arms of another person, even if it wasn't the one I had feelings for, eventually the sadness subsided.

Originally Posted by benjm85 (Post 23182691)

Im not sure how easy to replace her status in my heart. I have been chionging for so many years, met countless of girls all touch and go nia. Only this girl manage to go deeper into my heart.
But anyway will try to move on since I have family too.

Originally Posted by benjm85 (Post 23182691)

Im not sure how easy to replace her status in my heart. I have been chionging for so many years, met countless of girls all touch and go nia. Only this girl manage to go deeper into my heart.
But anyway will try to move on since I have family too.

Originally Posted by benjm85 (Post 23186507)

Hmm bro I am married la..so I can fall back on my wife haha.

Originally Posted by Rubbaking (Post 23259400)

Got to remember your wife is probably the only one who will go through thick and thin with you. It is super rare to find a wl who would be willing to do the same.

Originally Posted by Rubbaking (Post 23259400)

Got to remember your wife is probably the only one who will go through thick and thin with you. It is super rare to find a wl who would be willing to do the same.

Originally Posted by chubbybastard (Post 23260719)

Are you sure about that? Last time maybe. These days divorce rate so high in SG, i'm not sure that is true anymore.