Joy of a ex-WL sponsor?
 

It has been almost 5 years since I started that ridiculed and deleted thread "Joy of a Cat40 Sponsor" or maybe it's the period of time I've known this ex-WL. Here's an update, and I invite any kind of sharing, feedback and criticism hopefully in a constructive way.

I'm a rather successful businessmen, no issues financially and I like to think socially too, except perhaps for having 2 failed marriages behind me and an addiction to the FL scene. Still have a few close local gf, but remained single due to twice bitten - thrice shy :D

As a rather adventurous self, I believe in living through various life experiences even if it has been threaded dangerously by others before, may for the challenge, but usually done within means and armed knowledge. Getting involved with WL is one of them.

So the usual ex-WLs sponsoring story goes like this; hook up with them in their hometown, RENT the gfe-filled sex via gifts and sometimes monthly sponsorship, experience the variety of what each trip can bring as if a tour, and enjoy the fake feeling of falling in love.... until you get over-powered by KC.

Well, thanks to the learning from mistakes and wisdom from brothers here, most KC traps are avoided and I managed to bill out or otherwise participate only in those worthwhile deals willingly. In any case, each one of these usually have a predictable life-span... some as short as after one tactful phone conversation from her hometown.

Then comes those one in a thousand chances where one of these ex-WL genuinely can turn over a new leaf, in the process provided me with loads of satisfaction mentally, emotionally and sexually.... almost perfect, there seems to be no end to the r/s... not unless I break it "cruelly" and sending her back to abyss again.

Alternatively, such [affordable to me] sponsorship may go on forever, but I'm afraid it'll only waste her youth and cost her the opportunity to find a life goodpartner.

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I think you are my twins :) Beside the successful business man and current status.

But have you ever wonder what or where we'll be when we get old? Cant keep doing it forever unless we are vampires. Even cash flow never stop, so do the age flow :)

"I'm afraid it'll only waste her youth and cost her the opportunity to find a life goodpartner."

Have you think the other way around:

"I am afraid that it'll only waste my time and money for eternity of emptiness in the end."

Her youth will be passed by time and the opportunity to find a life partner is very much depends on her faith.

And having 2 failed marriages is due to what we are, our character, it is wrong and inappropriate to say 'twice bitten - thrice shy'

Anyway, must acknowledge that it is also beyond my control, as i am currently exploring VN gals, But already eyeing the possibility of exploring Myanmar :)

Keep up joy ride, dont quit ;)

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Brother,

I can only say One Word..... MINDSET...

We attract what we think. If you want OUT of this situation, then you Mindset....

What you can buy, will not last long.....once you are sucked dry, you will be left in the desert ...old and dry...

Imagine this, if you are really dry and old, will she want to marry or be with you? I don't think so....Try telling her that you are dry now and see what happens.

MINDSET Brother....I am very sure that you can have a much more better alternate life style..

Just my two cents worth.
Cheers

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I love this above quoted part . As long as u know when and how to stop u will be fine .

I know PRC girls who hid their children/marriage details while getting rom wif sg guys . I dun really understand their intention as to really forget their child back home for SG PR status or taking the guy for a ride and dump when used .

I also know of unwed prc mum who go through all the hassle of proving to ICA of their child and trying to provide a better future for their kid .

The playground is too big to judge from a few references here . Just cheong safely .

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( I know PRC girls who hid their children/marriage details while getting rom wif sg guys . I dun really understand their intention as to really forget their child back home for SG PR status or taking the guy for a ride and dump when used . )


Don't forget what they came here for? They want to make as much Money as possible and then go home to their family ( be it to provide a better life for the kid or parents or husband..)

THEY ARE NOT HERE FOR LOVE? They don't have time for that... Their Mindset is to make money , money and money and all at means....even to the extend of betraying their bodies....

Some might even dump their Husbands back home and be with a local man just to get all the financial supoport they can get hold of....and when they are done ( getting the money they want from the poor guy ) they will dump him as well and then start life anew in back home..

I am not saying that all PRCs are like this... ( This also refers to Gals from other countries as well ) I am very sure that there are some exceptional cases.

Please correct me if I have given the wrong views..

Just my two cents worth...

Cheers

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Quote ( THEY ARE NOT HERE FOR LOVE? They don't have time for that... Their Mindset is to make money , money and money and all at means....even to the extend of betraying their bodies....)

Typo Error:

THEY ARE NOT HERE FOR LOVE. They don't have the time for that.......Their Mindset is to make money, money and money and by all means......even to the extend of betraying their body...


Sorry

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Bro, money for some of us is not important. Some of us make more than can spend.

We found if the money they after, the more fun the fling is and the less guilt we felt when we dump her when we get another fresh one.

To me i rarther pay with calculated limit for the fling than pay a whore for a limited timing. I stop whoring years ago, since i stepped into this kind of relationship.

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Brother,

I also agree with your MINDSET...I would have done the same if I have had that kind of cash....

But as for some brothers....sometimes from paying flings , it can develope into feelings and then the story goes round and round...They might not be able to control their feelings... ( They have a DIFFERENT MINDSET from yours....)

I think that the best solution is like what you, brother , is doing...Just Pay, Fling and then move on with no strings attached.

Cheers & keep up with this Good MINDSET.

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You can say we're thinking on the same line with regards to the getting old thingy ;) Maybe I've cum to a point I've played enuff and thinking of an "exit path". Main issue here is how to settle those whom I thought I can help but somehow know it's probably a fake benignancy with an agenda. Just not sure about myself :rolleyes:

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Test them ?

Tell them u failed in biz and need a 20k sgd loan from them . By now u shd have known how much money they have in their bank accounts local and overseas .

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Considered done. 5 years is a long test period.
Say test result is positive (i.e. good girl), so how?

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It all boils down to you wanting another try at marriage (maybe she will accompany u for life) or tell her in the face "we will not have any future but only as lovers , if you can find a good man and settle down i will feel happy for you , i dun want to waste your youth " The truth hurts but its for her own good . She will see the reasoning eventually .

Sometimes your sex/emotion sessions will still continue even after she settle down with someone else although frequency will be less . But you should not bang balls for rejecting her marriage proposal and seeing she had settle happily with someone else even though her hubby is less well to do .

As a player you should be glad that you had helped her when she needed you and will have a happy family now . You will even feel happy that she is blissfully married .

To let go of someone for her own good is not easy but one shd be selfless and if you really care for her ,you will wish her happiness and end it if she has someone who is willing to take the risk and marry her .

Disclaimer:
Only applicable if you really trust her to marry her and my own personal views .

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Most of your points do resonate with me. :o

I stare at the above quote thinking I've a lot to comment on, but drew a blank for quite a while. To say that I've helped her or any WL, as a player, sounds good... but I think we all know there's some amount of BS in that thought :p

If charity was the goal, there're lots of respectable venue for it and "saving a WL out of her predicament" will rank the least, if at all. I was obviously in for a trade of somekind, and perhaps that's what she knew too.

To be frank, capitalist like us usually milk the well dry in such a deal; if she's worth the maintenance and a willing party to be led on, why would I even think of ending the lease?

If you love someone let them go, if they return they're forever yours? LoL... I did share this thought with her (note she's not educated so such thoughts are profound) in the past, and in some of the very heated quarrels lately, she asked if I can just do that... I've been picking on every little things to start quarrels with her such that she cries literally every other day till some breaking point.

While we're not married, I find myself repeating the same shit which I believe cost my last 2 marriages...

So true, but I need to change my MINDSET... :D

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Emptiness and companionship .

Pure commercial F is no longer fulfilling to you .

The mindset is hard to change :p