The feeling is gone?
 

I have been married for close to 4years.. Lately I realize that .. I don't feel satisfy with my sex life.. He only suck on breast & touch breast.. Not much foreplay ( which im a person who love foreplay ) No more fingering or licking anymore.. & because is not simulate .. My below tends to be dry.. & after Bj, will start to put in to have sex.. Sometime I feel pain & uncomfortable due to the dryness..

I had talked to him about this issue.. He becomes better for the next session.. But the session after next will be back to square 1..

Tried my best to improve by wearing g string, thongs, more lacy & sexy bra.. But in the end.. Is still the same problem.. & what's worst? No more kissing thru out the session anymore..

Sometime I get kinda upset abt it.. Is it because he has no feelings for me anymore? Or is it because he is tired of my body?

Re: The feeling is gone?
 

So he doesn't perform as many actions as before, and your solution is to change the way you dress? Maybe try doing more and different things? Lingerie is just a speedbump anyway.

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I believe it's a very common phase that couples go through. Try to break out of the routine. Go for a short holiday or something. And don't try too hard to entice him.Hold back just a tad. We guys are b@$!@?ds. Tend not to appreciate things that come too easy.

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Hi Sis, I can picture the journey that you are goin through.. Being in a similar situation, I believe you can feel it if your husband still have feelings for you de. Jus pay more attention to his reaction and patience towards you.. As for the sex part.. Guess you may need to bring more spice into it. Some Guys may tend to seek for that extra excitement at times..But If he still Loves you. I believe he'll be willing to explore deeper in this area with you de.. :) Jus talk openly to him and clear your doubts k. Dun keep it to yourself. It feels awful one.. Best of Luck! :p

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yeah.......agree with babyrexx........

he might need some more spice.........dont know why......we guys act in strange way........

we love our partner .........bt sexually we are always more adventurous........always asking a lil bit more.......

so its best to explore what he wants...

Re: The feeling is gone?
 

maybe ur hubby worry his didi will soften that's y he quickly finish:confused: :D

Re: The feeling is gone?
 

The way you wrote just seemed more like a boy who write out out imagination... Or you are not local?

In any case, I leave it as it is and not zapping you.

Good luck

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Do not be upset, sis purplewing :)...You r not alone wif tis problem....there seems to be quite a no of similar cases like urs tat sometimes leads to some of the wifeys having to eat out themselves...cos of a dissatisfactory sex life wif their respective husbands....

Yr problem seems very much like a case of wifey wif HSD tat wants to enjoy sex but wif a hubby wif kind of LSD, jus happy going thru' the motions for reasons of his own...It's a typical case of a guy prolly not too interested in sex anymore after some yrs of having marital sex, albeit in tis case its jus 4 yrs only...the maxim..."New broom sweeps clean" applies...everything becomes mundane after some period of time....n yes, its true as the sis mentioned, there's no more kissing anymore during the 'Love making'... so tats why many pple say, there's a need to re-ignite or re-kindle the flame of love between the couple frm time to time n sustain it if possible throughout the marital r/s to keep the marriage sexually alive at least...

Empathise wif sis purplewing tat she is oso one of those wifeys facing tis same common problem...as the sis oredi knows...for enjoyable n pain free sex esp for women not already self aroused, FOREPLAY is always necessary to help wet n lubricate their vaginas for the entry n insertion of the huge, hard mass of meat of the men...o/w it will definitely be dry n painful for her when the erected penis is forced in...:eek:

The possible reasons maybe as follows :-

1) Sex after those years of marriage might hv always been the same...n for the HB, it's no longer exciting like the one on the wedding nite :)...the initial sweet taste of the forbidden fruits fades away over time :(...n nothing new is suggested or tried to spice up their sex lives...tats why there's tis advice frm marriage experts, counsellors or such tat though married a couple must still regard themselves AS NOT n pretend they are still trying to date each other...to savour the freshness of their dating times....

2) He might be overhelmed by work stress, a guy so affected by stress in his work place, will hv no appetite for sex when he goes home. He is more worried abt his job than abt sex...

3) He might hv some1 else in mind esp if he puts up late nights n give all kinds of excuses for not being wif the wifey n only does it jus to detract the wife

Anything new, not seen b4 or forbidden esp in sex, i believe will always excite pple esp the guys...still can't believe guys can go on for long w/o some kind or form of sex...they are built by nature to be horny...Kudos to the sis for having done her part to sexually attract her hubby...so now she jus need to find out for herself which one of the abv 3 options is most likely the reason for the dissatisfying sex life she is currently experiencing wif her hubby...Perhaps, she can find out the reasons either overtly wif him or covertly whichever way is more appropriate to her...

jus my 4 cents worth of tots n hope tis helps...hope the sis purplewing will rediscover her enjoyable sex life wif her HB soon...

Re: The feeling is gone?
 

Eye candy is stimulating maybe u might want to add more like. Shave or wax pussy. Be more seductive or slutty. Be more wild. Be more verbal example like talking dirty etc.

If all else fail have a talk maybe he is stress n worn out by his work.

Lastly he and hope it is not he is screwing someone outside thus is drain an lost interest in u.

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Now I tends to dress up a lot.. Put on make up.. Etc.. But he just say I'm getting more & more vain.. Haha.. That's all

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I wanna perform also no one let me perform. haiz....................

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Ok.. I shall try suggest him that we go for a short trip or something to spices up our life.. Really true that guys will not appreciate if things gets too easy?

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I do talk abt it openly with him.. But my feeling is most of the time.. He is being selfish & wanna enjoy himself by me blowing for him.. Sometime he even prefer to CIM then that it.. When I hint him I wanted full sex instead of just BJ for him.. I will get a condom ...

Re: The feeling is gone?
 

Hi I'm local.. 100% a lady.. The profile pic is myself.. Is true story & is not my imagination or made up..

Re: The feeling is gone?
 

Maybe he already well fed outside so unable to perform :mad: alternatively you can also look for one to sextify your needs:D