Sex Addiction? Vicious Cycle?
 

Due to this Covid, your life is some wat stagnated because of the lock down and many restrictions.
You have more time now and you remain single or unhappily married.
Other than the usual family chores, there are no new activities that distract you.

All you can think of is which SPA to go and which ML to find.
Often spending $100 per trip and 3 times per week.
It becomes an habit and you easily spend $1500 per month.
Life is just spending aimlessly and emptiness after emptiness

Then out of a sudden, you met a gal (Not ML, WL or those commercial gals) somewhere in the workplace, social events or party.
You started to date and when not dating, you read, exercise and do something more constructive.
You dont even think of sex but both of you spend time together enjoying. When she Zao geng, you turned your head away.
Going to Spa is once a blue moon thing and the urge i gone.
You dont even need sex at this stage of life with her

Then you looked back and Suddenly you realized that you have been spending foolishly and wasting quite a lot of money in the past for the temporary release.
Even going to MBS top resturant at the sky park is cheaper than your SPA session
So you stopped immediately and completely.
(That explained why some brothers disappear for a while)
However, after a while when relationship fails, you are back to commercialism and into SBF forums.
(That explains why some return) The vicious cycle continue.

Anyone been through this?
Feel free to share.:confused:

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Upped you for sharing

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Pretty sure many people here been through this! If you keep your mind busy you will not think of commercial sex.

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Have engaged in plenty of sports and exercise. Now only Cheong once a month as against weekly in the past

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Frequent release is healthy too though - I find when I don’t release at least 3-4 times a week I feel more tired

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Today Chinese valentine day. May be go and Cheong later. Lol

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Yes indeed... Any addiction is destructive.. Health and Wealth are the two things in life men cannot neglect and have to be managed vert carefully... Once anyone neglects it, it has very adverse consequences which will take a long time to recover.. Some people don't even recover from it...

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Actually if you cheong for 20-30 years and spending $2000 a month, don’t be surprised how much you spent and how much potentially you lost in terms of compounding.

Let’s say you start at age of 25 spending $1000 per month and today you are 45. The amount can be invested into a fund that gives u 10% returns. You would have lost $687,000 in your cheong journey. Lol! I have always been trying to stop my cheong journey but didn’t manage to until Covid19 struck! Wa! CB! I dump those money I usually spend cheonging into the stock market and I have accumulated more than $100k in just 1 year. Really fuck! Seriously, best to think using big head. 2 years can easily pay off a Tesla model 3.

Let’s say you are 35, 40, 45 or even 50 today, it is not too late to stop. The $$$ u started accumulating now can be massive. Of course once a while to release if there is really an awesome lady. Cap at 1 time a month max. Not 3 times a week. Ok bros?

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Now doing it in moderation and more for the thrill than addiction. Usually once a month and maximum twice. My sporting activities keep my mind away from commercial sex.

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Agreed that chiong too much sometimes is like eating good food everyday, it's diminishing returns and you don't enjoy it as much as you would if you had "starved" yourself for weeks beforehand. Think about your first session after the circuit breaker :D

But it's useful to think of the spending as a budgeted amount, like, for entertainment.

Some weeks, got a few new contacts from good bros to check out, so chiong more. Can overspend on one week, then cut down on the next. As long as meets your monthly budget in total.

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Actually regret chionging for ten years as it's waste of money when you see majority of ml doing rush job it's just not worth it. Stop completely for 1 year Liao deleted my wechat and contacts.

I started chionging due to a stupid reason. That time my boss ask me go Malaysia to work on my own. I never touch a girl before and also never travel overseas before so scare I die when I go overseas but yet the allurement of job promotion is too great to reject I go for my first hj at ABC market spa and was hooked. Ironically I never got the promotion I was promised but hooked to it

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Do it moderately and not compulsively is still ok. Treat it as monthly entertainment expense.

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sound advice from fellow samsters ��

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Up you for sharing. Yeah, I guess its quite common.

I go to the gym and do various sports regularly so for me the exercise doesn't help much in kicking the addiction. I find that the long periods where I really don't feel an urge to find a commercial release is when I am actively chasing a girl and I think about her every day. But as I have been single for so long those times are rare.

Every now and then I think of pushing myself to kick this habit, but it is always due to financial reasons - thinking of all the additional money I would have if I don't cheong anymore. But the counter argument the devil in me says is that I'm single anyway, even if I accumulate such a massive amount of money I have no wife and kid to spend on. And the devil tells me cheonging when I'm young is better than cheonging when I'm much older even if I can more easily afford it (E.g. The commercial ladies may be more willing to kiss someone who is young and relatively okay looking as compared to a balding and 50 year old me).

But my advice to other bros is to cheong what you can afford. Don't ever get into debt or live paycheck to paycheck because of this habit. Have very high standards for yourself - cheong only when you see a very rare beautiful lady, that way you can cut down on your expenditure.

Unfortunately ever since the pandemic started our opportunities for socializing with the opposite sex - whether those we know or new people has become so difficult. So apart from CB period where it was illegal, I actually find it harder to resist during the phase 2 and 3 phases.

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Spend what you can afford and only spend on choing after you have paid all your bills, set aside your savings and investments for the month.

Nothing wrong about having some fun but also got to be financially responsible