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Originally Posted by radiskull
Bro warbird
That's why I tell men don't chase women. When you're chasing women, not only are you causing them to flee (you can't give chase if she isn't running first), but you're also getting yourself tied up in emotional knots... that are going to bind you to her.
Except, it's not a two-way bind.
You don't bind her to you by getting emotionally attached to her yourself. To the contrary... the more emotionally attached to a girl you become, generally, the less attached (and interested) she'll be in you.
The more time you spend emotionally pursuing something or someone - and any time you even vaguely "want" something, it's emotional, at least to some degree - the more power you give that something or someone over you.
And what happens when someone has power over you?
What u said is really true. And it applies in real life. I chase a girl too hard and now she has the power over me. Too emotionally attached to her now. Causing too much pain and I really need to break free as it's driving me crazy
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Dear bro rediskull,
That is really bad news! The good news? You're in great company haha. You're one of the billions of men, in the last 5 thousand yrs of recorded history, who find themselves in this painful predicament.
Let me repeat. If a man is more emotionally attached to a woman than she is to him, he is the one caring more in the RS, he will lose power n she will become less n less attracted to him. What happens next is predictable. He will become needy n desperate for her affection n company...like a drowning man trying to cling to anything that will keep him afloat. And how would she react? She will lose whatever attraction n affection she had for him initially...very soon she will find him repulsive n would break away asap hahaha.
What I hv described is true whether he has been w/ her 30 minutes or 30 yrs. I hv seen a rich, tall n handsome SG friend who was dumped by an ugly PRC whore in her 30s simply cuz he lost his control n power in the RS. He was madly in love w/ her! He even offered to give her money upfront n marry her!! I would say he kena gong tao. She despised him n flatly rejected him n chose to continue to be a whore back in PRC!!
Take home lesson? A man must hv power in any RS, n he should be the one who cares the least n he must be prepared to walk out for good, no matter how much he loves the woman.
Hope + Uncertainty = Attraction (Passion)
Understanding this formula is more important than your looks, height, age, status, money, intelligence, education, masculinity, personality, character, skills, strategies, experience, etc put together. And if u could give her PVO, more prolonged n more intense than any other men, she will be sexually n emotionally addicted to u, even if u look like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, hahaha.
Where is ur emotional control n self mastery?
Bro, STOP contacting the woman who is causing u pain. Never ever ctc her again. Let her make the first move. If she doesn't, forget her n find other younger, prettier n safer pussies. If she is living w/ u now, give her 24 hrs to move out, hahaha. Be firm n heartless. Doing so gives u the best chance to turn the table on her n for her to become attracted to u. She may even fall for u soon. There r no other ways.
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Originally Posted by saabking
LOL..now i feel like making my gal cry too..and see her raw emotions..  |
Dear bro saabking,
Give her strong emotions, the good the bad n the ugly, n she will fall for u.
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Originally Posted by PeteTsang69
 ha ha ha ..think its your DNA ..or more correctly , it's in our DNA ...
since this is the most "educational" thread in SBF ...maybe timely reminder of the "coolidge effect".............................
of course i felt this many times ...initially felt guilty, thought i was "unfaithfull", just after great time upstairs, exhausting long rounds ..
but down in the lobby straight away was excited again seeing someone "novel" ...
now i know there's a science to explain ...my "natural" feelings |
Dear bro PeteTsang69,
Tks for ur post. You're a healthy n normal man.
Cheers!
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Good morning!
Never ever forget this:
"The same is so in seduction - sacrifice your time and energy for a girl you've messed up on or who is not very interested, and you will end up paying $500 for a $10 item."
Do the opposite n do a bit of searching n you may pay $10 for a $500 item, hahaha,
Best,
Bro WB