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Originally Posted by racerboy
so TS, if u are strong and able to withstand this kind of shockwaves ( which i think 99% viet ktv girls will bound to give u) then u can try to be with her. if not, just let her go, so that she can find her own happiness.
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Bro Racerboy, i think you make the right decision to bail from the r/s when the 'time' is right. Lao jiao chiongsters will know what i am saying...
On the contrary, i had the same situation as you once 1 year ago, but i never even try to start the r/s becos i hesitated becos of the financial strain and i question if such r/s will work. However, till today, i do regret on my decision to not use a 'wait and see' approach and go into a bgr relationship first becos she kinda different from the typical 'working chicks'.Its has been almost 7 years ago since i start chionging in joo chiat in my fav pubs like tiger pub and blue lagoon. So i guess i do know how to tell when to move away from the r/s when her real and bad intentions show.....
However, We all will be lying if there is no financial investment involved when you are involved in any r/s in singapore be it from local or viet girl. Sure must spend money want but the question is how much? Sia la, if you go out with most local girls, they want eat restaurant, go mbs chiong, more expensive? LOL.... don't anyhow jump the gun and think you can be cheap charlie or MR Softie and any girl will stay with you for long.I have a longtime good friend who is happily married with his viet wife even though there were tons of probs at the past when they were gf bf. However, u need financial output to keep the r/s going. Don't come and tell me you stingy enough, cant spend on transport, lodging, makan and entertainment when you are with your chick in hcmc or singapore.
However, yet some of we guys can buy gold, bracelet lah, samsung tab lah, smartphone lah, atas bags lah to flaunt our egos and make our girl happy and its HAPPY ending liao? LOL, of course you can buy but the moment you jump the bank and buy big the first time, more bigger damages will arrive soon i suppose?.....At times in the past, some viet ktv or pub girl i go out with ask me buy big gift like perfume or eat expensive seafood restaurant. I kanna a few times liao from these chicks then i never contact those particular girls after the first meeting becuz they failed my entrance exam in the first place. However the lao jiao chicks will play mind games with you then you need to be stronger than them to survive lah, its all in the mind.....
IMO, the problem is where is that limit we should take or stop or control so that we won't be categorized as a carrot head(chai tow)?
I think we guys need to be selfish sometimes and protect our wallets first and brainwash our viet or local girls to not anyhow spend. However, coming from a budget stinkaporean chiongster like me, we guys should look at ourselves on how we spend?lol SGD ten dollar notes can spend like nothing while i can even budget less than 5 SGD per meal and even think twice if i should go over the 15 dollars mark daily? and also understand that there is a time to spend big but not blindly spend 20-30 bucks on a chin chai(random) meal in singapore? LOL no offense i not rich, low income dude here.
If you are earning 4000 SGD onwards, then go ahead and spend but already so many narrow minded singaporean guys spend without intellect! There is no right or wrong lah but this is how i feel? Maybe we should brand ourselves as charitable spenders or chaitows because of our naive thinking? LOL i dunno, just my POV...