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Originally Posted by risingup
Always respected yr posts, I was wondering, if we always show minimal care, do we just wait for girls to approach us?
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I think its more relevant to draw a line between reasonable amount of care and that which is excessive.
Not so much as to show little care or wait for them to come.
What is dangerous is to be to overly "enthu" in showing and trying to attract the gal. This can be dangerous. Like, some of my cheongster bros did before. One of them was so enthu until he literally waited for the gal to knock off from work at 3 am daily. (the gal is a singer).
Once its excessive, you can guess what the gal will do next. In fact, there is no need to guess. Humans being humans. Its natural for the gal to start to take it for granted or take it easy. But, this is not to advise you to play hard to get.
What you want the gal to do is to like you for what you are. Be the man you are. Don't put on a front. If you are not a "Mr Nicey" who would pull out the red carpet and welcome the gal to a restaurant, then don't do that. All such heightened acts of chivalry will gradually fade, after a while and leaving behind the person that you really are.
If you are out for the gal (for real), then don't act. If you are out for fun, also don't act. Be genuine be sincere. That's what attracts girls because of what you are, rather than what you aren't.
Its not a game, but a test of whether you believe in your own attractions. Sincerity also doesn't being doing stuff excessively. Note the diff.
