[XanderBoagerts]

Originally Posted by warbird

No need to hide your intentions or be manipulative n never be afraid of rejection...this is the essence of Mode One behaviour.

Also, let me quote: "Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for disappointment or frustration."

According to Alan Currie, author of Mode One:

If I've said this once, I've said it a dozen times ....
Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for
disappointment or frustration;
Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for
disappointment or frustration;
Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for
disappointment or frustration;
Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for
disappointment or frustration;
Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for
disappointment or frustration;
Rejection and/or harsh criticism is not failure, and therefore is not a valid basis for
disappointment or frustration;
See ... I just said it a half-dozen more times.
The problem I see with many on this board is that some of you put "too much" emphasis on
receiving a positive, enthusiastic, and/or reciprocal response from women.
With Mode One Behavior, you can't do that. If you do, you're setting yourself up for frustration
in the future.
When I'm Mode One with women, I really don't concentrate on the potential responses from
women and/or results I achieve. Why? Because for the most part, those factors are out of my
[direct] control.
I only concentrate on these 2-3 things:
1) What is my primary objective with this woman? Why am I talking to her in the first place? Do I
want to potentially date her? Do I just want a one-night stand and/or a weekend fling?
The more you know what you want from a woman, the more specific you can be in your
approach; If your desires at this point are in the "undecided" category, then leave your
approach more 'general'.
2) Now that I know what my objective is for speaking with this woman, how am I going to
express my desires, interests, and intentions to her? Am I going to be bashful? Beat-around-the bush?
Or am I going to express my thoughts in a highly self-assured, bold, upfront and
straightforward manner??





Cheers!

Bro WB

Bro WB

Thank you for your introduction of the book "Mode One" by Alan Currie. Will read this book and hope to practised what was taught inside.

I also agreed that I was rejected countless times and was not a failure. Man had to be thick skin in order face all these rejections.

Your thread was enjoyable and hope to read more here.

Please guide us more and will try to contribute.

Cheers!