Originally Posted by warbird
Let me share w/ u 10 ways to increase sexual tension (written by a guru).
10 Ways To Increase Sexual Tension
You see, for some guys you have to teach them the whole “do something to increase sexual tension — then keep doing more stuff” approach, because too many guys are looking for the ONE MAGIC METHOD to getting a woman turned on all at once…
And it doesn’t work like that!
Here’s an analogy….
For most women, oral sex provides the easiest means for orgasm. And yet, there isn’t ONE MAGIC LICK you could do that would make it so that she cums after “one lick”…
Instead, you have to give her a “sequence of licks” if you want the ORGASMIC tension to build.
It works the same way with building SEXUAL tension. So it’s to your benefit to create a list of ST Tactics and then from there, use a sequence/combination of tactics to get her turned on….
If you decide to create a list of ST Categories, as a tip just think of any possible thing that would lead to some sort of increase in sexual tension.
Here’s a list to start with (fill free to add to it…). As you can see, I didn’t limit it to ‘conversation tactics’ or anything like that…
1)Working Out (looking better, improve, pheromones) – Again, this is proof that my objective was to list every possible thing imaginable that could build tension. So trust me, I’m not trying to insult your intelligence by listing obvious things. With that said, working out builds sexual tension in several ways (looking better, being perceived as someone who cares about his health, being perceived as someone who cares about his appearance, being perceived as someone who cares about improving.) In addition to that, the healthier you are, the sexier you will smell – on a pheromones level.
2)Sexual Matching. This works purely on her ability to detect the pattern – even if she’s not consciously aware of it. If every time she has sex, it’s an incredible/great experience, it’s a tension builder for wanting it more in the future. People like doing things that are fun. People like doing things that feel good. Taking it a step further, if she wants hug-like soft sex and you bang it silly, that’s not sexual matching. Sexual Matching is all about identifying what type of sex she wants at the moment and giving it to her.
3)Touching and Caressing. If you’ve been in a relationship before, then you’ve probably created sexual tension by this method. When done the right way, it’s one of the easiest ways to get a woman turned on. When done the wrong way, it’s one of the easiest ways to get a woman turned off.
4)Fantasizing about sex. Thinking about sexual fantasies. Thinking of past sexual memories. Thinking of future sexual encounters. Thinking of a time when she ‘watched sex’ – either on TV or live.
5)Increasing Metabolism. Doesn’t apply to all women. But in general, the metabolic rate has to do with the speed of internal processes. Most people associate it with ‘losing weight’ (the rate of burning calories). It’s more than that. If you understand the true definition, then you’ll realize that it also has to do with speed of horniness because ‘getting horny’ requires a chain of chemical processes that take place in the body. So simple terms: If you speed up her metabolism, then she’s going to be capable of getting horny faster and more often.
6)Gradual Affection. If you ever cuddled and caressed a woman over a few hours, and all of a sudden she wanted to have sex, then it’s because you slowly increased the sexual tension via gradual affection. It’s not limited to actual touching. It could include gradual compliments (verbal caressing), physical rubbing or a combination of both.
7)On and Off Methods. This is a general and one of the basic forms of creating tension (sexual tension and orgasmic tension) Adding pleasure. Taking it away. Adding more pleasure. Taking it away. The best way to understand this is to NOT look at sex as a series of penis thrusts, but rather a series of ‘putting it in’ (adding pleasure) and taking it away (removing pleasure).
8)Hate/Love Swing. This is the more descriptive version of make up sex – emphasizing the transition (swing) from ‘hate/anger’ to ‘love/happiness’. Although ‘make-up sex’ is a concept for most people, technically there are other ‘swings’ that happen that create tension. It’s an emotional version of an ‘on and off’ method.
9)Dramatic Increase in Sexual Value. This is somewhat of a ‘swing’ technique. Instead of building tension via ‘hate/anger’ to ‘love/happiness’, it’s from going from no value to having value or going from value to lots of value. The interesting thing to realize is when you have ‘no value’ in your relationship, you are essentially ‘not a man’. And with new relationships, the woman is often ‘hyper sexual’ (with little effort) because she’s going from ‘no-man/loneliness’ to ‘having a guy who cares about her’. So, increasing your sexual value (especially, dramatically) has a similar effect of her falling in love for the first time all over again.
10)Eliminating turn offs. The idea is to identify things that turn her off and stop doing them. You can go beyond that by figuring out her personal turn offs. Although, it’s technically not a direct tension builder (in most cases), you should still treat it as such.
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