Exactly a yr ago, when my old Fujian lao po HW didn't want to return to SG after CNY, I suffered from breakup withdrawal n couldn't sleep well for 18 days. I was surprised that I had such severe symptoms, only second time in my life. Ten days earlier, when she asked my permission to return to China for CNY, I said no because she had promised a few months ago not to return this yr. I told her 我们分手. She was very angry n left anyway. I later regretted it n tried to get her back.
Did I love HW? You tell me. I think I'm addicted to her sustained n violent CVOs.
Less than a week later, I met my future 18 yo kawaii lao po SL.
Five months later I said goodbye to my other LT mistress HH. She was very angry n devastated. But I felt nothing. Why? We had been together 2 1/2 yrs.
I now love SL. Do I really? How about my other younger n more kawaii dolls? In fact, I hv a new 97 doll AG coming, who is 168, more kawaii n fairer. Natural C. OMG! Why don't I love AG more?
BTW, I did meet HW for 5 days in SHA last July when I went there on biz. We are still friends. She would be happy to see me in China. She said it's difficult to come to SG on visitor pass.
So what is love or KC? There r three distinct emotions of love: Lust, romantic attraction and attachment.
These three emotions involve different neurobiology in the human brain.
It would be great if a man feels all three emotions toward the same doll/woman for the rest of his life. But that is almost impossible. Very often, he may feel one or more of these emotions towards different dolls, with or without some overlap. And his love emotions towards them may be changing over time, especially when n if new dolls enter his life. Life is very complicated, isn't it?
At this time I like to share the following on these "love emotions."
Brains Do It: Lust, Attraction, and Attachment
By: Helen E. Fisher Ph.D.
http://www.dana.org/Cerebrum/Default.aspx?id=39351
Your comments, opinions n FRs will be greatly appreciated.
Cheers!
Bro WB