Originally Posted by Dragonkeep
Thanks for standing up for the 老 uncles bro. Some threads ago, I did make allowance for the few studs amongst us who were born rich or blessed or both whom we have all grown up with. Even those, I'm sure, have their share of failure stories. Anyhow, hopefully the somewhat unhappy younger bro will cool off and just see that this is a benign thread meant to care and share for the benefit of the younger or less experienced ones.
Anyhow, the point was that many of us are made, not born. Most of us carry the scars of life and those that learn best from mistakes or lucky enough to have (and actually take to heart) lessons in life before, do what they do better. If our young friend was indeed born gorgeous and loaded, well congrats to him. Must have been a saint in his last life.
A major point that seems to be developed by this thread is that we need to practise a bit of Sun Tze: knowing what MMs want and what we can do (the old hat about knowing thine enemy and thineself, a hundred battles and a hundred victories). But, that's where the head knowledge ends in usefulness. As with all classroom know-how, things are easier said than done.
All of us have grown up alongside girls dreaming of their Mr Right. Apart from those born in an economic utopia, one of the most important things in life is still the almighty dollar. Heck, even in the uni, there were girls attached to the studs around who openly declared these were their FBs for the time being. True enough, the jute babes in question ended up bedding and collaring much older but richer blokes from the workplace soon after graduation. Not one regret as far as I can tell, from their leisurely lives in a D9/10/11 landed prop and chaufferred cars. Looks alone (by a hunk) cannot buy the 5Cs + landed. Add to the pressure of each PRC or other foreign talent MM having a clan and more to feed back home, a competitive field of hundreds of thousands equally good looking women and running against the clock, wondering when the wrinkles, bat wings and belly fat would appear etc etc, hell it's little wonder the Jews are reputed to have a prayer for batangs to thank Yaweh for not making them a female(!)
Whilst the field is stacked against the fairer sex, that's where the imperfect market comes into play. A fool is said to born every second. Did all of us guys realise we had so many natural advantages going for us? I think not. Do all MMs give up? Surely not. The smartest can probably twine any of us round our dicks at some point or another. I get particularly generous with those chemistry laced sexy types. Fortune also deals an uneven hand around. Some less fortunate bros actually end up in economically dire straits and only dream about the things other bros can do. Others have the $$$ but dare not do the ballsy things these threads speak of, for a variety of reasons, some honourable and romantic (believers in endless love), some pragmatic (eg scared of friggin suspicious OC). Others just never knew.
I ain't a mega rich tycoon with unlimited resources. Different league. But, the fundamentals are the same: we need to know (as early as possible) what drives the babes out there, and what we can deliver out of our own resource$. It ain't cheap either. We can do a $30 H81 shag job, or a more classy $300-500 hotel getaway with no time limit, for an all night bangathon. If we wanna have a live in relationship, the MM has to be housed ($1,+++ for something decent), her bao fee (seems to be in nice big nos. like 6, 8, 10, 12 x 1000) plus the dinners, entertainment etc etc. No shoe string operation, especially if the target plays the MM game well enough - teasing enough and compliant, or pitiful enough etc to snare the right Robert head.
Just as we measure the MMs we wanna bao, the MMs in the imperfect market also mea$ure us up, for sure. It takes great commitment to share one's youth with some old but financially better off uncle. But heck, for us guys, it's the game of assessing where the economics overcome the stigma for the given MM of being the 小老婆 and the loneliness from such an impermanent liaison. - somewhere in that tome of Clavell's 'Noble House', is a strikingly accurate and not irrelevant bunch of passages about the life of MMs in 1950-1960 Hong Kong. I remember one character advising his younger protege, "never mistreat those who give you their youth". That's really the product the MM gives and the better a trader she is, the better a bargain she makes. I amaze myself that my 1st long RS came with a 15-y age diff with me, the next with 18 y and a current side by side one with 22 y. These gals pay with their youth.
Surely none of us came right out of school knowing all the above. Getting our individual Sun Tze assessments right and then executing each op successfully - now that's where the skill really lies. None of us would willingly want to be the very first patient a newly qualified surgeon operates on. That just reality. Whether in business, or romance or snaring a BY, it's mainly all experience, experience, experience. A Patton or Napoleon or Caesar comes around once in while, but like I said, good for the unhappy lil bro if he is one of those, but most of us mere mortals just live and learn.
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