Originally Posted by warbird
Ideally a woman wants a man who DEMANDS sex
all of the time, not the weekends. She wants a man
who says with gentle command, "take off your clothing
and dance sexy for me while I sip my drink."
A man who knows how to take control...
Because that's what makes HER feel sexy.
A lot of guys have been confused by my concept
of "All Day Foreplay," thinking that it meant you
should give her a lot of compliments.
That is not the case. I used the example of
giving compliments to a woman who specifically has
issues with her body image (which is very, very
common). But the object is not to give compliments,
but to do whatever it takes, throughout the day, to
make her feel sexual.
If your wife is attractive and she knows it and
men compliment her all the time, then that is not
going to work at all.
The idea behind All Day Foreplay is to train
her to feel sexy when she is around you by doing
the things that make her feel sexy.
Sometimes that's giving her compliments...
But it could be telling her that you love her,
it could be tickling her, it could be spanking
her whenever she walks by, it could be whispering
romantic things in her ear, it could be pulling her
hair back and biting her neck, it could be saying
really dirty, raunchy things to her...
Whatever her blueprint is to keep her on a nice
slow simmer so that by the time you get to the
bedroom she can't wait for you to rip her clothes
off.
Here is the very, very difficult challenge in
front of you...
Now that you have trained her into this idea
that you are not a powerful, masculine presence in
her life-- it is going to be very hard to get her
to change her mind.
People are VERY resistant to change... and they
can be especially resistant to a change in the
people that they love.
The crazy, messed up paradox of this is that
she is not going to want you to change... even if
that change is for the better... even if that
change is going to give her a better relationship,
better sex, a sexier and more confident life-partner,
and a much more fulfilling life.
She has made her decision. Staying consistent
to that decision is a powerful force of human
nature. If you start acting in powerful,
masculine, and demanding ways, she is probably
going to react with anger and frustration, and
possibly fear.
Can it be done?
Yes. It can. But it's going to take time,
persistence, patience, courage... and a big bucket
of masculine strength to do it.
If you can understand what I say in the next
paragraph it has the power to lift your life
to unbelievable heights:
Perhaps the M.S. is the gift that will allow
you to rise up above ordinary men and fully
demonstrate your heroic strength of mind and
become a powerful role model for others.
I have seen others turn set-backs, tragedies,
and insurmountable-looking challenges into the
fuel that launched them into greatness. In fact,
it's hard to find many great men in history who
did not fit that pattern.
I said above that being vulnerable in your
authentic truth was one of the most powerful
indicators of pure masculinity to women...
For you this might a conversation that begins
with, "I have allowed my fear of my disease to
make me feel weak and less than masculine in our
relationship. I know that this was entirely my
own doing and that it made me sexually repulsive
to you. Whether or not your sexual desire returns
to me and to this relationship, I am committed to
living a life of courage and passion and deep service
to our love, regardless of my physical condition..."
Then you have to start living your truth.
Don't LET her have sex from you until she is
prepared to come to you as a surrendered woman
to her lover.
Don't accept second class treatment... not
by pouting or showing anger, but by calmly and
lovingly denying her power over you.
If you can follow this path, trusting yourself
and knowing that your life is yours alone to choose,
then she will soon be begging you to make love to
her.
I wish you luck my friend. I have confidence
in you and believe you can do it if you choose to.
This is, I know, some very advanced material
that some men may find difficult to apply in their
lives.
But at the minimum, if you are reading this
and in a similar relationship, at least commit yourself
to making a new beginning, to making a pact with
yourself to take the steps to reclaim your masculinity
in your life through vulnerable, authentic truth.
For Passion,
Mr. Guru
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