Originally Posted by warbird
Bro, that is really cool!
Get them to keep talking to you while u LISTEN...
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Good morning!
Many men like to to talk about their accomplishments, possessions, status, wealth, power, sexual prowess, women, etc. Very bad idea. I hv been an offender too. Instead of talking, we should LISTEN n LISTEN.
The other day I received an e-mail on the subject 'How to Get Beautiful Women to Talk to You!'
Bro Warbird,
This simple secret changed my life forever.
And it transformed me from the loneliest man I've ever known to the man I am today
- with dozens of close friends, a powerful social network, and three gorgeous girlfriends (who I've been dating for years)... as well as other women, who come and go.
The secret is this:
Getting over your fear of starting a conversation and talking to people is the secret to having an active social life, tons of friends, action whenever you want it and the hottest girlfriend you can possibly imagine.
The "Stop Talking" Technique...
The secret to meeting people... getting over your fear of starting a conversations... and the secret to making people interested in you is simple:
You want to change your goal from impressing someone through talking to them, to letting them impress you, while you listen.
This seems very simple, but it's incredibly profound. Let me show you how it changes EVERYTHING:
Most people are stuck in lives they only kinda like.
Some people live lives they absolutely hate.
And for better or worse, most WOMEN feel very frustrated. They feel like nobody HEARS them. Or listens to them. Or understands them on a deep level.
However, when you start a conversation with a woman... what do you do?
You try to "talk her into submission!"
You tell her this amazing thing... or use this incredible line... or try to impress her with your confidence...
... While the whole time, SHE just wants to let off steam. And impress you with her amazing interests... incredible lines... and show you HER sexuality and confidence.
So you have this battle between two people who are both trying to "talk the other one into submission."
Really, truly, it's a mess. And it's a miracle people can talk to each other at all.
So next time you talk to a woman you like... or a guy you want to be friends with... you're simply gonna do this:
1) You're gonna start the conversation. This part is EASY. It's SIMPLE. You can say "Hi." You can say "Hey." You can say whatever you want. Your only goal is to get them to stop, make eye contact, and say "Hello" back to you.
2) Then instead of trying to talk them to death, you're going to say, "So, tell me a little about yourself. What do you like to do?"
3) And then you listen. You say, "Wow. That's interesting. Why do you like to do that?" You ask them questions. You listen. You nod when they say something.
And you add your own stories or insights when the time is right. But mostly, you just try to listen. You soak up all the information you can.
Then, after about two to five minutes, you have to make a decision: Do you want this person in your life or not?
If you say yes, you tell them, "Hey. I had a really nice time talking to you. I'm really glad I met you. We should hang out sometime. What's your number?"
And if you don't, you say, "Hey. Sorry to interrupt you, but I really have to run. It was great meeting you, and enjoy the rest of your day!"
This works because it's so unique. And because you get to choose whether or not you want this person in your life. Why be afraid of meeting new people when YOU'RE doing the choosing?
Why be scared when YOU decide where this relationship - or friendship - is going?
What's the risk? What do you have to lose?
Nothing.
And that's the secret.
When you make this shift in the way you talk to people, you can't lose. You can grab friends or girlfriends right off the street without risking rejection. Or risk saying the wrong thing. Or risk the fear wiping your mind clean of anything to say, before you get the words out of your mouth.
I truly believe this "Stop Talking" Technique is the most powerful thing I've ever learned about meeting new people.
So before I go any further, I want to give you a quick tip you can apply RIGHT now with women.
I want you to think of three questions you wish a woman would ask you about what kind of man you are.
Now translate these questions so they'd make sense if you asked a woman. In other words, ask women the questions you want them to ask you.
Let me give a couple examples.
I'm extremely passionate about my job, and I would love it if a woman asked me, "So what do you like best about your job?"
Now this would really get me talking.
I would say, "Well it's incredibly rewarding to see guys transform into better men right before my very eyes. I always feel a great sense of accomplishment and fulfillment every time a workshop comes to an end."
Now imagine if you asked a woman this same question!
Here's another one. I love to talk about culture - art, movies, music, books.
So I always get excited when women ask me about my favorite movies, bands, books, etc.
So here's a question to try:
"If you could make any kind of movie, what would it be about? Who would be your leading man/lady? Why?"
-Or-
"If you could make a living doing any kind of art, what would it be? Photography? Sculpture? Something really strange and avant garde?"
Every woman wants to be listened to.
Your Friend,
Mr. VK
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