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Originally Posted by Nottherealme
Hello all fellow sis (and bro), I got nowhere to rant so I thought here might be the next best place to let out all my frustrations.
My husband and I have dated for 4 years before we got married and now we have 2 kids. Everyone says once you get married, the nightmare starts. 婚姻就是爱情的坟墓。And it's true.
He doesn't do his share of everything - be it housework or taking care of kids. Like most husbands I've seen wives complained about on Facebook post, he is glued to his phone all the damn time or when he isn't using the phone he is sleeping. When I ask him to do something, he complains this and that and says he is tired from working. But I am also working, also tired from dealing with bullshit. To me, he doesn't understand what married life is about. I feel so exhausted that breaking down is the norm nowadays.
Right now as I'm typing, he chose to be angry at me because I refused to help him take his phone to him, and shifted himself to the other room to sleep. Childish, I know right? I don't understand why he just refuse to understand the reason behind my breakdowns.
I don't even wanna get to the sex part because it feels like it is non-existent. I am lucky enough if we can get some action once a month. He doesn't ever do foreplay and the sex only lasts approximately 5 mins (?) before the deed is done.
I don't know what else to do or say to him anymore. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.
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let me dissect imho:
1) he liked to nua in nature
2) his mentality is more MVP
3) both of your priorities in life after kiddos is different
(for u is your kiddos > correct, for him, life still goes on cos no life n death matter > neutral)
4) for sex life, u can sacrifice w/o it (well, if he dont want to service u, there will be men waiting to service u, so not utmost importance)
Solution: either u accept it or u changed him slowly..but for me, kiddos development & happiness is top priority!