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Originally Posted by bvhunter
I am connected too, great summary indeed.
Thanks bro WB for a very nice thread.
Have a good day.
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Bro, tks.
Cheers!
Bro WB
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I like the following article.
Don Juan,
Women are very important. No doubt about it.
But what's more important is to create a great life for yourself.
Read on...
Why You Need to Get a Life
by Chris
Age brings wisdom.
Usually too late, but it does bring wisdom.
So for the young guys willing to listen, us old guys can supply valuable knowledge, without you having to experience the pain and frustration of learning it on your own.
I know, pain is a wonderful teacher. Probably the best. But listening to someone who's been there...
Is less painful.
This gets to "getting a life."
Most guys in their early teens start to notice women and desire the touch, the smell, and all the good things women have. They are soft, they smell good, and above all feel good. This is why we desire them.
So the natural reaction is when you see something you want, you chase after it, pursue it.
This is where we make...
Our First Mistake
Guys get consumed with women, sex, dating, the whole thing.
Guys change their look, their personality, their identity, in hopes of attracting women. There is a powerful craving for the leg candy. So we alter our true being in hopes of getting the leg candy.
Major Wrong Move!
I'm not saying that you shouldn't look your best, have a good sense of humor, be mildly flirtatious, etc. You pursue and flirt, but subtly and with class. Like no one even notices. That's a true DJ.
Women spot desperation and hunger a mile away. They see it in your eyes, your body language, and your interaction. They also spot confidence and class. It's a 6th sense for them.
What then, do you do?
The Key Is to Get a Life
If you have 10 hobbies or interests in your life, such as golf, collecting stamps, swimming, fishing, etc., women should be about #5 on that list.
NOT #1.
This is where the hunger and desperation come in. You get hungry and desperate, and you will get rejected fast.
Ouch! Confidence falls, and a vicious cycle starts.
The way to avoid this is to never let it happen in the first place.
Remember, confident guys desire affection/sex but do not crave it. They have other things going on in their life, besides trying to get laid every day. Trying to get "laid every day" is the quickest way to not getting laid at all.
So, get a life. Get hobbies, have guy friends that think the way you do, confident guys that love women, but don't obsess over them. Play golf, fish, shoot pool.
And if you meet a girl through your activities and you click – wonderful. This is the kind of girl you want. She understands you have a life and won't expect you to drop everything for her all the time.
If you meet a girl through your activities, and you don't click – so be it. No big deal. The hungry/desperate would get bummed and sulk about this, but not you. You have life, interest, friends, etc.
Remember...
"A woman is like your shadow. Chase it and it moves away. Move away from it and it follows."
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I'd like to thank Chris for this great tip.
If you want to attract a high-quality woman, you must first build a high-quality life. One that sustains your happiness with or without a woman.
Good luck!
Allen
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Yeah, if a man has high-quality life and high status, high-quality women will follow him like his shadow.
Money doesn't equal high status. It's the complex combination of a man's education, knowledge, family upbringing, specialized skills or expertise in certain fields, mannerisms, self-mastery, courage, trustworthiness, compassion, hobbies, body language, voice tonality, communication skills...
Plus what the Chinese call 气质.
Many people in shady all-cash businesses hv boatloads of money. You know they are of low status, even in a Ferrari or chauffeur-driven Rolls. And they will never own the heart of a beautiful high-quality woman. I'm being brutally honest.
TY, my 19 yo LP, knows the BIG difference。She would say 不是有钱没钱或美丑的问题, 而是教养，气质，地位，身份不一样。She now understands my jokes spoken in English.
Cheers n goodnight to all samsters,
Bro WB in Gotham City