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Originally Posted by Penguin23
Hi bro, I've written about this before. Happy to summarize, since you asked.
My ex-wife had a mental condition which became worse over time, during her manic episodes she would openly hook up with other men and over many years I stayed married for the sake of the kids, but eventually decided to divorce when it became increasingly obvious that her promiscuous behaviour was starting to affect my kids. My daughter once saw her holding hands with another man in a shopping centre nearby my home, and there were other children from the same condo that made fun of my daughter's embarrassed reaction.
Over the many years that I wore a green hat, I grew to understand the familiar pain of having my own wife being fucked by many opportunistic men, in the earlier episodes her mental state did not manifest itself so openly so I reacted quite violently and had some police reports lodged against me, but I never ever got charged once it became obvious to the police what the surrounding circumstances were. Over time, I also became intimately familiar with the legal distinction between VGH (Voluntarily Causing Hurt) vs VCGH (Voluntarily Causing Grievous Hurt).
Over time I stopped caring, since I no longer have sexual relations with the wife but I can appreciate how a husband feels when his wife is violated by another man so I would never wish this kind of pain on another.
But, as TS and many others have said - if they feel they can get away with it and they just act on a basis that these are two consenting adults having some extramarital fun then go ahead.
But, they will never know how the husband/boyfriend will react when their identities are found out. Men (and women) tend to react irrationally and quite violently when an affair is first discovered and the violence is usually directed at the third party no matter how illogical this course of action may be.
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nothing against you bro, I feel your pain for sure.
Been through alot of similar relationships before marriage during marriage, and I totally understand how you are hurt by it.
You are a great dad, that's what I can see, and you have been scarred by a woman whom you trusted, and did not do her part.
I can also understand the moral part of your discourse and its good faith you are trying to convey.
Unfortunately we live in a fallen world, and as much as we keep ourselves, do the right things, shit happens to good people.
Perhaps that is why sometimes people say, if you can't beat them, join them