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Originally Posted by TheSpyingPerv
haha yes, I do agree! But if we can't be ang moh, we can focus instead on the things we can improve on ourselves.
5. Take reference from the younger guys bickering amongst themselves in this thread. Everyone's trying to one up each other. Differentiate. This is the exact type of drama younger girls face with boys , and they want to avoid it at all costs.
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Forgive me for asking this if it's a stupid question, but if I want to avoid drama or not be seen as yet another potential source of drama as a single man in a nightclub, would I NOT want to be in a nightclub then?
The whole nightclub scene is just one huge drama fest of one-upmanship exactly as you describe. I personally hate that kind of toxic masculinity atmosphere where in order to get girls you inevitably have to be drawn into guy-on-guy bloodsport to flash money through alcohol, acting alpha, and dressing up/bling. Even if you go into a nightclub trying to be the "elder statesman" type amongst a sea of boys, more often than not the girls who supposedly "hate/avoid young boys drama" would simply pass you over if you're the kind to sit back, be quietly confident and self-assured, and not try to pick up girls by acting/being rich and flashy in a nightclub.
Just my thoughts and question from my personal exp. If I'm going to spend 2 to 5k in a single night out drinking, I rather do it somewhere nicer with better quality alcohol and atmosphere like say Atlas.