[QUOTE=cbkia222;24242950]Hi Bro,
Thanks man
Coping better ( had some bros PM me with similar issues, so its like a little support group).
for my wife, yes i still love her and she is the mother of my children.
Hi Bro,
Glad that you are adopting well.
Can see u still have feeling for your wife and trying hard to maintain the family nucleus.
My only advice is, endurance is the way to go when women starts aging. This is a problem face by all men, all family. Another thing will be communication. If this is lacking or 1 way traffic, then it will be very very hard to salvage.
For me, I adopted the endurance part, but my thoughts are no more on her and the family. She had push me to the limit during Covid days. I even ask myself is it a shameful thing to seek help for mental abuse as a man, as during those WFH days, reports always portray women as the weaker sex to being abuse.
Then I started to think, there are many couples who live under the same roof, yet is just name remains as couple, heart already gone.
Divorce is a hassle for me as I have a special need son, that live like a king. I am not going to disrupt his life so maintain current status quo is the way I think to go. Don get me wrong, I still take care of the ‘family’ as we are single income for 30 years. I have also thought of moving out to stay alone however, any dollar spend today will be a dollar less I can give to my son. And another endurance journey.
Don ask me if I am giving u the advice, why I did not try to save mine. Can only say I believe in fate ba. Maybe mine is over. I am not going to waste time doing things I deem as hopeless 😞
Is a great effort on your part to try to save the marriage. Hope all goes well for u.