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Originally Posted by warbird
Every action we take has consequences. An action is, by itself, neither good nor bad, but is either wise or unwise, according to my guru. Since I practised meditation w/ him, I hv completely erased my painful love for that young PRC I met almost 2 yrs ago. Am I a carrot head? I guess I was, but hopefully not anymore, haha!
Lastly, for those who are infatuated w/ or enamoured by the little singer, don't believe every word she says. 
Tks n hv a good day! |
Every action we take affects the intended party in a certain manner. Good or bad depends on how that person takes to it. I didnt follow your threads that closely so I dont know what you went through but I am happy you found a way to overcome your grief. I try my best not to get myself into any compromising position (no offense to you bro). I am married so my field of play is much narrower and all my cards are on the table on the very 1st day. I never paint a rosy picture and behave differently once I got the target.
As to whether you are considered a carrot head, I dont think so. I dont think we are doing anything away from the norm. When I was young and in love, I used to buy things for my gf. Then I was going after my current wife, bought her a few gifts during our short courtship. Over the years of marriage I have bought her numerous designer bags, rings brought her for holidays around the world. She did buy me gifts every christmas and on my birthdays(with the $$$ I gave her) Am I a big carrot head?
Last few years I have bought some gifts for a selected few PRC meimeis... They treated me no differently from my wife especially when in PRC land. Sometimes even more accommodating and willing on the bjs and kinky stuff.. Am I a carrot to give her a little bag for appreciation. She can be doing the same to another man but then again I have no right to control her. As long as I am satisfied when I need her I am not really bothered.. She's not my wife and will NEVER be. If someone pays her to stay at home so much the better cos I wont feel pressured to provide for her.
I was smitten before.. and over time I have learned not to impress the girls with gifts. They work at KTVs frequented by people who are a lot richer than you and me. I need to stinge to buy her an LV and that pot bellied man or ah sia kia can buy her one every day. I have my bad misses too and I have also learnt to bite the bullet and cut my losses. Instead of sulking and putting the blame on the girl, I rate that under misadventures and wrong investments.
Recently I am smitten again.. at TAM this time and looking like a losing battle
