having been diving under water for more than a year since i signed up for sammyboy. but now finally i have to say that it's becoming very compelling for me to show my head above water and breathe some fresh air...
just my 2 cents of thai go-go bar girls:
go-go bar girls will never fall in love 100% with a white-skin farang, and in the case of you and me being yellow skin asians, anyone not "khun Thai". the reason is simple: on the nights when her boss/loanshacks/ex-bf beat her up, you're not around. on the nights when she suddenly feels lonely and down, you're not around. a true love needs substance, more than some kiss-kiss-bang-bang.
besides, remmeber that in thai language / culture, "I like you" is purely for friend-friend (peung-peung) relationship. A decent school girl may tell you that "she likes you", but what she really means is she thinks you are a nice person to be friend with - that's it.
most girls dancing in nana/soi-cowboy disco bars are from "upcountry". perhaps 4 in 5 are from Issan (the north-east): it's like a mini globalisation happneing in one country: when ex-farm girls move to BKK and find out the true reality that their primary/secondary education means jobless in metropolitan BKK, they end up dancing in discos. somewhat not what they dreamed of when they attend first day of school at age 6, but the sheer amount of money flowing in (compared to farming) and the crazy-yet-fun lifestyle and the many "friendly" sisters who share the same background and life make them addicted to being a go-go dancer. Yes, "addicted".
although i'm only 25 but i've seen many stupid farangs marrying these go-go dancers and bring them overseas to their home country only to realise that these girls feel homesick rather quickly, perhaps in just a month after the moving to "farang-land". and the truth is they feel homesick not because of their father/mother/sisters/brothers+20 other relatives at home in Issan (well, maybe 10%), the 90% of the homesickness is from missing the crazy-yet-fun lifestyle of neon lights, dancing, getting bar-fined, ...
in conclusion, in terms of thai culture:
(1) everyone wants face (face value)
(2) once becoming a go-go bar dancer, the girl immediately lose face in the eyes of ordinary working-class thais
(3) so they resort to enjoy their own lifestyle: smoking, drinking, dancing, etc.
(4) but most importantly of all, they feel the happiness in life because they see many farangs want to bar-fine them, want to "love" them, want to spend the night with them, i.e., the girls feel that in the eyes of farangs, they are goddess
(5) and they are taught and brainwashed everyday by their sisters/boss/bf to "ride on the wave of happiness", to make use of their goddess-apparel in the eyes of farang, to get rich - well, for any girl grown up in a poor family, who doesn't want money to upgrade their own life a bit?
(6) and as said in point (5), there are skills needed to get money, and hence, not all go-go bar girls are equally rich or happy: all they need is to remember your name, your interests, your birthday, your home-country, and smile, and be femine, and act like a little cute girl, and hide in your open arms, and voila, you'll sooner or later become her walking ATM. perhaps she won't ask you for anything on your 1st/2nd date with her. but once she sees you has an interest in her (girls are very good in sensing your feelings), she'll start to ask a bit, and a bit more next time, and a bit even more the next time.....
well.. if you really want happiness with thai girls, you should:
(1) learn Thai language / culture (if you spend 10-20 Baht to buy a garlend and give to your thai gf/teerak yesterday on 23 Oct to tell her to pay the respect, you may save a lot of money)
(2) be a vainpot (especially your hair), and self-conscious on your appearence and be fit / go to gym regularly (it'll help you on the short term in bed/go-go bar and it'll help you long-term for your health too, so why not?)
(3) get a decent Thai girl as your girlfriend - don't rely on go-go bar girls for a long-term relationship unless you have recently won a Toto top price and want to burn some money for religious thanksgiving. while keeping your regular girlfriend, use go-go bars for extra pleasures only.
if you have a thai girl as your girlfriend, i'm not sure if you're aware of not that in thai culture, many girls refer to thai guys as "they have many girlfriends" / "they are lyers" / "they cheat on girls" and many girls want to meet someone "who never tell lies" / "who is not a cheater" / "who is true and sincere"....
all these feelings come from an unspoken practice by thai girls passed down in generations: when they really want to love their bf, before giving 100% of their love to their bf, they'll do a test on the bf, by asking their other girlfriends to act like "a lonely yet lovely girl who wants love" and try to seduce/chat/befriend with the bf. in this modern age of internet proliferation, this has become rather easy - msn chat logs. once the bf shows that he has intention to "love" this girl, the girl will immediately report back to her friends and relationship will probably end soon with the girls getting a renewed impression that "guys are liers".
hence, while getting on steady with your thai bf, if one day u see a stranger girl telling you to love her, remember that:
(1) it shows that your thai gf now really consider you as her life-long partner and she now loves you really really a lot
(2) tell this new stranger to "fuck off" - well this may appear hard on any guy to resist a temptation from a pretty girl stranger, but remember this is not real - this is a testament on you.
good luck
