[CeiResident]

Bro i like what u say, your quote eats into my heart now. Been there done that and picking up the pieces now eventually it would just be a fairy tale...

When you are stressed out, or suffering from a love affair breakdown, or just feeling plain lonely, a smile from a beautiful stranger tends to lift your spirits up. When she moves closer to you without any inhibitions, plant kisses on you, it seems all your care and worries disappears as you respond in kind to her warm embraces, finding comfort in her hug.

When she whispers ' I love you', your mind zooms to the highest heavens, leaving your sense of logic far behind, lost in the apparant magical power of a self perception of love, hearing words you had desperately always wanted to hear.

You choose to believe and even do your utmost to convince yourself that it is all real, even if you have only $30 left in your pocket, ugly, with a pockmarked bald headed face and a bulging beer belly.

Assuming that you had a lucky strike with love, you showered her with everything within your means, even borrowed some, when she so much as utter a request through her lovely lips.

'Kah Ching!!!', the jackpot machine in her mind sounds off quietly. Another fool entwined within her 'Kan Ching' web. An assured ATM (auto teller machine), a salary made within 20mins which takes her countrymen a month of toil and sweat to earn.

Wake up bro. True love does not come easy. Pub goers are mainly adults and each adult would have found been in love before, or at least have a perception of what love is.

In your eyes, that ktv girl is only an image of what you seek or hope to find. A physical reality but only of your fantasy. Use your common sense, which girl will ever say ' I love you' within 5 secs of meeting you, without even knowing who and what you are?

True love takes time to develope, a total physical and emotional journey of exploration of each other to find if there are qualities each may admire to take them both exclusively into old age together.

But love within 5 secs? Friendship perhaps, but love? Absurd.

It is understandable that we all have our emotional weakness and needs, even if we are mentally and physically strong. Being human, we need to be loved and the comfort it brings to our lonely individualistic lives.

Ktv/WL/FL/FB's love is nothing more than an illusion to fulfilled that need Mcdonald style, and needs to be treated as what it truly is - an illusion.

In such moments of weakness, it is therapatic to escape into this illusion for that fantasy becomes a reality in the form of her presence. It keeps us sane for without even a reality to our fantasies, our lives will be wasted living and chasing forever an illusion that may never come true, getting wilder as each day passes, losing our sanity finally or forcing our natural urge upon unsuspecting unwilling partners.

Treat that ktv girl as you had always fantasize love about - care and concern for her and being loved in return. Make love to her even and find comfort in her, for she is a willing party to your dream.

But in the end, when you see the sparkle in her eyes and the wide grin on her face as she accepts the money from you for her time and efforts, let it be the wake up call for you that the illusion has ended. You will need to move on with your life in reality, for illusions only brings emptiness, like dreams that disappears with the mist when the sun rises...

Dont even bother to take her phone number, for she is not the one you seek or the next. Your true love cannot be found in this manner within dreams and fantasies. Your true love is already living in your mind, the someone you had lost or else it would be a friend either waiting to be found or is already found but you did not look closer to let that friendship develope into love.....

Originally Posted by Rub&Buah

i understand the feeling & stuff u r going thru.Thou we cheong often & screw many gals along the way,there will be a few who we will develop some special feeling which is actually confusing for us.

No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance ..
No one stays in love by chance, it is by work ...
And no one fall out of love by chance, it is by choice.


Subconsiously we hoping for somthing to happen but u do not know what u hope to happen.Just want to cling on to find a answer.resulting in $$,time & emotion burned.Note:usually in the end there is no ans,just memory that will eventually fade as time goes by.TRUST ME,IT WILL.

Originally Posted by Rub&Buah

Few days of happeniess,months or years of emotion suffering.

Good luck & take care bro,this is not a cool game,