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Originally Posted by hjy_19
hi everybody !!
NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.
WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?
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I dun know about the deal for a trip to swim at seaside, but in VN, long distance ride is common for them. Also, unlike SG when you go to some ppl house, they EXCLUSIVELY cover the cost for drinks/food. Over there, sometimes you may have to share the cost or pay for it entirely. But I need to stress that it does not mean you let yourself be a carrot-head.
As for your qns, the sponsering of her brother's study and to cover her mum's debt, I have no comments and it is solely up to how you justified your relationship with your gal. But do take note that Vietnamese has many money problems, be it real or a make-up story.
And as for her air-ticket, you will need to get "return ticket" when she comes over, and some cash to show to immigration that she can support her stay here. So take note it is not just paying for a cheap SGD 200 + Lion Air airfare.
Lastly, unlike being with a SG gal where she continues to earn her pay check even after ROM, your gal will be jobless until she gets a PR. So during this period you are expected to help out in her family basic expenses. You mentioned that her brothers needs $500 monthly for study, so this may falls under the basic expenses, not counting marketing, bills. And if the house debt consist of monthly repayment, it will also falls under basic expenses. In short, it is the "must have" thingy. Whether it is true or not I have no comment. I am just highlighting the magnitude of the problems to you.
But that being said, marrying a SG gals does not mean you are not spending money either. (no offence to bros with SG spouse)
Maybe some senior bros can brief you on the real deal