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Originally Posted by SingViet
Other points i agree. But these 2 points above, i don't really agree. These 2 points will be true if you can provide her with good life and your family not too worried about finances. If you cannot provide yr vietnamese partner with a good life, then forget about the above 2 points.  But of course, their definition of `good life' is not as demanding as the singaporean ladies. |
Hmmm, i've realised these two points are quite subjective anyway....thanks for the highlight!
I guess a lot has to do with how you deal with the relationship as it will have a lot of impact on her loyalty and the way she use money!
I dunno about others but i'll just relate my case...
My wife found out about a fling i had while she was back in VN. She was absolutely angered!! "Tsunasmic response" from her would be an understatement.
Anyway, i explained to her that i never actually did anything more than exchange of sms and meeting a few times at the pub...I showed her my "plan" of life together, the future that i wanted with her and my love for her. We had a heart to heart talk and i apologised for my moment of folly. This happened after we just got married for a few months! So it was kind of a great test..well, we've survived and I must really credit her for sticking by me all these years.
By my own standards, i have not given her a good life and we're not even talking about luxuries and diamonds or whatever. But she has stuck by me all this while. When my business wounded up sometime last year, she took it upon herself to contribute to our family and starting working and picking up skills. Cos i was a spender rather than a keeper, she took up the task of budgeting expenses.
As bro Singviet pointed out, "good life" could be anything! Its a perceived value and means differently to different people.
So i am glad my wife is not one of the "spenders" and does not crave luxury stuffs. All she wants is having a good family with enough income to own a house and provide for our daughter.
Lucky for me?? Well, maybe.....but I chose her not for her looks in the first place, there're better ones around...but for her outlook towards life...the Vietnmese Life Partner that i wanted.
So i guess maybe one lesson for all bros is to find out what the gal's expectation of life is....tell her your means and your abilities and your vision...is she able to fit into your life? Yes, good...NO?...move on...no point in forcing the union and end up with costly divorces later....
Cheers!!