Originally Posted by fallen.angel
I’ve got this comment (and zapped points) on my last post:
“Pengyou, you and warbird et al are wrong lah. Do not stereotype girls and think they will conform to your stupid tactics. KTV girls yes, because they need money. Normal girls don't need hoot from you jokers.”
We are not stereotyping girls. We know every one of us, guys and/or girls, are different. We are all individuals with different likes and dislikes. Certain characters/personality traits will attract certain people but at the same time, can repulse others. Just like not everyone likes durians, the smell and taste of truffles, or other gourmet delicacies, etc. One man’s meat is another man’s poison, so as the saying goes. Some people like certain things while others hate those same things. Some guys like D-cups, some don’t, some like tall girls, others like petite girls, some like skinny girls, others like fuller girls, etc. In short, everyone is different. You will never appeal to everyone. Just like you’ll never please everyone.
So, wooing different girls require different tactics and strategies. Sometimes, even wooing the same girl but in different situations/circumstances may require different approaches! We are not idiots trying to act and look like alpha males or psycho-ing ourselves to think that girls hold no chance but to melt away in our presence. True, our ultimate intentions/motives sometimes may be very “superficial” and “shallow” (like bao-ing) or whatever term you want to use on them cheongsters but you must understand that there are some universal truths in things warbird and others contribute in this thread.
Girls (and the XY gender of the Homo sapiens species included) generally are attracted to people who are: humorous (fun), confident and sincere. Seriously, it all boils down to that. We all like to be with people who can make us happy, is good-humored, who are successful and confident, and genuinely sincere, don’t we? Don’t you like to soak in and be infected by their happiness, passion and appreciation of life? Or do you rather prefer someone who is generally grumpy, grouchy, cranky, and a pessimist?
So when warbird said to disagree with women – to me, it’s a direct result of being confident and being comfortable with yourself. If you aren’t confident and comfortable with yourself, how do you expect people to be comfortable around you? Being confident will help bring success in whatever you do in life. Being successful will boast your confidence. And the “vicious” cycle just repeats itself. Being rich is just a by-product.
Flirting and being sexual = fun and humorous. At least that’s my definition, my interpretation of warbird’s article. I could be wrong or you may disagree with me. But I’m talking about harmless, fun kind of flirting, not the hamsup kind of flirting. Are you fun to be with.
I’m not saying these tactics are smart. All I’m saying is if you are not successful with women, then working harder doing the same things you’ve always been doing will yield the same results. If you want change, then change your thinking and actions.
Observe your group of friends and peers. Who are the ones who are always the most popular and welcomed by the girls (and guys alike)? Who are the ones who the girls enjoy to be with? And I’m not talking about KTV girls. You go and observe yourselves.
I read warbird’s articles but I may not agree with all the tactics. But look deeper and analyse and try to understand the rationale, the underlying principles that form the basis of those tactics.
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