Due to current BY, I have not been making tours of HFJs for a while and so have not contributed to this thread. But to this general question of approaching HFJs, let me offer a few observations of one cheongster:
Very much agree w BroME that you need to ask what you want to get out of HFJs / why you go.
There are some bros who view the singers as basically the same as KTV MMs, just perhaps more expensive to maintain. I largely agree with this view, but with some qualifiers I'll explain later. So here one reason as I think it was Bro DYBJ put it was that it's easier to ensure faithfulness of your singer, due to their schedules and openness of where they ply their trade
Or you like HFJs because you enjoy the flower fights or you enjoy the face of others seeing your support of your gal. I know quite a few singers at various joints, and the experienced ones usually believe that face/pride is the biggest driver of the big hangers.
Or you just like the atmosphere / company, and don't really view it as a hunting ground for sex. This was my original view of HFJs. I used to be able to control my hangings to X hundreds (more for a show), without actually chasing anyone. I still preferred KTV MMs then and actually still do
So if you know what you want in advance, hopefully you can stick to your plan. And if your reason is not the last one above AND your funds are limited, I would strongly recommend just staying away from HFJs
If you are open to chasing FBs or BYs in a HFJ, then some words of caution:
- It's definitely a lot more expensive in general to support a singer than a KTV girl at the same quality levels.
- If you do like to hunt in HFJs, my experience is that supporting a singer at a smaller joint is much much cheaper than at one of the top 5 joints, at least if she's anything resembling popular
- My BY at a top joint cost my 4-5x what my BY at a small joint cost (tho much of this was their relative popularity). At a big joint their expectations are much higher of course. And big joints have big hangers, some of whom seem especially to enjoy chasing singers whom they know already have BFs. (this is likely due to the face of winning someone else's GF). At the mid-size joint, it seemed once others knew my singer had a bf, they completely stopped chasing her
- Yes I realise I could have 'tested' her commitment to me by not supporting as much, but for whatever reason I allowed the competition to affect me and hung more
- Keep in mind just because of their requirement to work every day and book tables and do shows with minimum flowers, they are under a lot of pressure that KTV MMs don't have. That alone makes it more expensive to spend time with your BY and to make her feel less pressured
- I actually do think, amongst some of the fresh arrivers, that you can find a a trustworthy girl, as there are those who foolishly believe they can make it w/o a BF and so turn down many ST offers. But 95%+ are very savvy and perhaps tricky, so buyer beware! The stories of their treachery you learn about in HFJs is quite amazing, I guess because the open nature allows all the others singer to see/speculate and so gossip