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Originally Posted by BJLover
Hi Bro FGG, SBX,
Thanks for the advice. I am 43 this year. Not getting any younger.
However, my love for my 2nd ex-gf continues to be there. Like SBX,
when I was with her, I never touch or even look at another girl.
I continue to hope that one day, she will change her mind and be back
with me.
I do not go china as often as SBX. Maybe 2 trips a year or so. I try to
see if I can see her whenever I am there. When I cannot see her which
I have not seen her for more than 1 year already, I feel sad. I wished
at times, I had met her first and marry her. She is a really nice girl from
Qing Hua University. Smart and intelligent.
Like what she told me, we cannot have everything in the world even
though we know what is now best for us. We cannot turn back the time
and change things. I am afraid I will die with this deep regret forever.
It is the great sadness knowing what you finally wanted in this world
and watching it goes......nothing in our education will ever prepare us
for this.
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Bro BJLover; What you are saying is rather true but always remember, once bitten, twice shy. First, take it easy. Regrets is one thing but life goes on. You can't be thinking of reconciliation all the time. You have your own family, work, friends and play (Importance is in this order) to consider. I understand it is difficult to move on, I have similar experience with a PRC gal but like I said before, life goes on regardless what had happened. Since tomorrow will come after today and yesterday is only a figment of our imagination and in our memory, why not be a happier person and look on the bright side of things.
IMHO - I think you regrets is simple and you really should not carry this baggage on your shoulder all the time. I said simple bacause you have not found one with similar IQ/EQ quality. Once you do, your 2nd ex-GF will only be a lost rememberance back in your head. Not only does she satisfy you in the daily mundane happenings area but I am sure you enjoy talking to her. It is like brain stimulation. Not only does a person require physical balance, we need mental balance as well.
By the way, 43+ years old is not too bad, I am also about the same. Just take things easy and be optimistic. The glass is always half filled and not half empty.
