Good Afternoon!
Due to various commitments n obligations, I hv been very busy...
Every real life encounter is a learning experience n makes me a better man. Every story in SBF gives me something to ponder n ruminate.
There is a thread on a Famous Samster and his HFJ PRC Story. This famous n most esteemed samster is alleged to hv been KC-ed big time by a PRC woman, although we hv yet to hear his side of the story.
Assuming that he really got KC-ed deeply, his major mistake is that he put her on a pedestal n tries to be very caring n very "nice" to her, behaving like a loyal n obedient serf, sucking up to his master/goddess. Where is his self confidence n self mastery? How could a woman w/ even just a modicum of self esteem respect such a "serf"? How could she feel safe n secure w/ him? There is no challenge, no mystery n no uncertainty for her. His behaviour is most repulsive to her!
http://sbfjust.rocks/showthread.php?t=261944
He should hv done the exact opposite.
You see, a man must give a woman hope but never ever "confess" his true feelings to her. Keep her in suspense n slightly insecure n uncertain...even in a long-term RS, say after 20 yrs of marriage, a man must not reveal ALL his feelings to his wive. It kills attraction instantly. On the other hand, if u give her no hope n if u make her too insecure, she is likely to explore n search for new pasture.
Hope + Uncertainty = Attraction (Passion)
No Hope For New Experiences/Goals/Future + No Uncertainty = Zero Attraction (Zero passion)
Little wonder that 50% of marriages eventually end in divorce. The other 50% hv failed but both partners decide to stay together for the sake of children, money, career, business, reputation, etc.
I'll give u a recent example in which I got it right, at least in part unwittingly...
I met a high school gal CL who was barely 17 in Beijing last May. She wanted to come to SG to attend school n be my young mistress. She is 166, chio n has very big natural boobs, perky ass n nice legs. But I'm ambivalent towards her cuz she has medium sized bone whereas I prefer those w/ small bones n very small wrists. I told her not to come until her 18th BD. Since April last yr, she has texted me many times daily n begged me to see her in PRC asap. Sometimes I won't reply for several days n I never initiated ctc. My nonchalant attitude has made her crazy abt me.
She is now a student at a respectable uni in Shanghai. She hopes to be my one n only lover, but she knows that it's unrealistic. She later says that she would be happy just to be one of my lovers. She has intro me to her 41 yo mother, via QQ video, who urged me to go to Dalien to visit her daughter.
CL summed up my "bad" behaviour n her feelings in her QQ space:
你用你的全部生命去谈一次恋爱，那这次恋爱必然不能成功；你用全部精力去谈恋爱，那你一定会被人玩死；你用 全部时间去谈恋爱，别人一定会嫌你烦。因为爱情这事，你越是勤快，投入越多，它结果就越差。只有像懒人养花 一样，爱搭不理，偶尔关心一下，才会新鲜。关心越少，爱的越久。当一个男人不爱一个女人的时候，往往能把这 个女人弄得神魂颠倒，觉得他特MAN，特够味儿，特浪漫，特霸道特酷特能掌控大局。女人喜欢甚至崇拜这样的 男人，因为她们觉得有一种小鸟依人的感觉。
Cheers!
Bro WB