[Big B]

Hi goodpartner,

I think it is very important to understand what you want out of the relationship. What works for others may not work for you.

If all you want is pussy, by all means, be the alpha male that both WB and DYBJ described. Its easy because there are limited emotions involved (mainly lust). You clinically access what is required to bring about the desired outcome and JUST DO IT. If you fail, so what? There's always the next woman to practice on.

I suspect that when these sifus meet a truly desirable lady (someone they might fall in "love" with), they exercise formidable self control and convince themselves that the girl is just another piece of meat. By doing so, rampaging hormones and emotions are brought quickly under control.

Techniques such as focusing on a woman's negative points is a skill designed to help bring about this outcome. In fact, by not caring, you will not fall into the trap of behaving like a love sick puppy. And yes, a woman greatly desires a macho man who takes charge - especially if she thinks she can't have him.

Such emotional self mastery is difficult to completely achieve. On the flip side, I believe that when you do reach such a stage, your abilty to love with wild abandon becomes irrecovably lost and you will never find a soul mate. This is because you will never allow yourself to pour everything you have into a relationship.

By way of background, there are "good" working ladies worth chasing (women who have been forced into doing what they do for whatever reason). These are extremely rare BTW.

Even when you find one, a woman work works in this line for more than 4 months will eventually:

1) 疲倦不堪 and succumb. It is not easy to be good when you are surrounded by temptation (as in easy money).

2) 心变得冰冷 - As in, what they do is also strictly business for them. We use strategy to KC them, they use strategy to maximize their earnings (and they can be absolutely ruthless in this).

Based on Sifu DYBJ's analysis, I do not believe your WL fits my definition of good. Please feel free to unleash your inner alpha!

GL!