[IwasApo]

Originally Posted by warbird

Hi Bro IwasApo,
Thank u so much for ur detailed n insightful analysis on the insecurity of men (and women).
IMHO, all humans r insecure. Some r much less insecure n some r very, very insecure. Only ancient sages n very rare modern humans r truly n completely secure.
If a human is ever angry, anxious, frustrated, fearful, shy or jealous, he or she is NOT truly secure.
Cheers!

Thanks warbird senior for your kind words. Yes, all man will be insecure from time to time. So part of being human, is about overcoming our insecurities. I like what you are doing with this thread, and do let me know if I stray from the discussions since I am also a student of how to make the prettiest ladies addicted to you, but they may not neccessary be ktv girls.

Whenever we approach the subject of secure vs insecure, we are bound to hit this topic of arrogance vs confidence. Confidence is attractive, and it put the hunter, into a position of power and the lady into a position of a follower. Yet alot of the problems we face is when ladies fail to recognize the difference between arrogance and quiet confidence.

A hunter is always calm and calculated in his approach. He does not seeks attention to himself. We see the great ancient sages share this common trait. When Mohamad, Buddha, Confucious and Jesus Christ saves someone, offer food and water to some, imparts a teaching to someone, they do it quietly. Its personal and its discreet. They do not aspire to be great, famous and well liked. They just go on and do what is right. They always tell the people they encounter, do not tell anyone what they have done for them, because there is no merit in the glory. This applied correctly is sexy and attractive to the lady. And because this is sexy and attractive, there are many empty shells who also recognize this fact, and copy it unsuccessfully.
When the music stops, he is happy even if he is alone. He is thankful for the companion he has by his side, and he is at peace even if he has no companion. The elements of the universe is one with him.

Then there are the arrogant empty shells, not realizing that they are continuing their insecure traits. These insecure shells take every opportunity to tell people who they help, and who they are going to help. A false benevolence without authority because they also fail to realize that there is power over life and death in the words of the confident man. Just as the Qin emperor was insecure, the arrogant empty shells need to do more and more things to try to feel that he has achieved something. But they forgot one important thing.

All of the ancient sages' power, come from their abilities to wage war, destroy their enemies completely, quickly and swiftly. With this in mind, they are able to forge lasting and permanent friendship and followers. Confucious was first a man of war, before he was a man of peace. The Qin Emperor adopted the system of meritocracy and the kingdom of Qin was transformed into a war machine. All the ancient prophets in middle east, were all man of war, strategist telling their kings how and what to do.

Over time, people forget why we respect Confucious, and why we follow his teachings. We are, afterall a meritocrite society. Now that we are ready for war, ready for the worst possible case scenario you can meet, we can be confident. You then inherit the power to forgive your enemies and make them your followers.

When we hunt for the prettiest girls around, we must be clear that we are truly confident, quietly confident. Quiet confidence is also known as quiet aggression. There is something magnetic and uniquely attractive about quiet aggression.

Ultimately the Alpha is comfortable within his own skin, this is one of the main alpha male characteristics, and if you can be comfortable in your own skin then everything else will follow. He doesn't care what people think, he is assertive enough to give his own opinion, and he is happy and confident in any situation.

The alpha male makes no apologies, he doesn't explain his behaviour. he is completely comfortable in his own skin so he doesn't need to. he don't boast about their success or try and prove anything again he don't need to; he assume you will like them simply because other people do, but he don't care if you don't, he won't chase after you for your validation, he don't care.

He acts in a rational and logical manner. Alpha males are typically rational and logical guys, who don't let their emotions get the better of them. He is always in control and do things with confidence, as if everything calculated and is going according to plan.

He talks slow, notice when you talk to someone you look up to you will talk faster. Talking fast is a way to qualify yourself to someone, essentially you are scared they will stop listening or find some more interesting stimulus, so you get your point out quick so they will listen, it actually has the opposite effect, and it shows your lower status.

He is in control of his ego. This is one of the most important factors in an alpha males characteristics. A true alpha male must make sure he doesn't develop over inflated ideas of one's own worth and even less project these on others. Instead, he should be cool, calm and collected and quietly confident.

He doesn't look around, he is the party and the focus of attention, he is unconcerned with what other people are doing.

He is centrally positioned in the group, everyone's body language faces him and is positive towards him, you can tell the alpha male of the group just by looking at them. Expect to be the focus and position yourself to be so, step up within your group and you will start to take on this dominant role.

He is able to see the bigger picture. This means that the alpha males aren't worried when things go wrong, as he is sure that it was meant to happen and will all work out. He isn't concerned with short term gains, but looks to succeed in the long term. This means that he will also be able to weigh up whether it's worth dealing with a negative in the short term for longer term success in the future.

He is a calculated risk taker. He doesn't have anything to prove, so will weigh up if he stands to gain from a situation. He doesn't fear losing face, as he is confident within himself, so will not take a risk where he knows he may lose, just to prove a point. This shows strength of character.

He is never impressed. He can be self centered and unimpressed with the achievements of others. He is an high achievers and strive for success so he have seen it all before it takes a lot, or a really high value to impress him he have high standards on every level.

He always aims high. The final and most important point I want to mention with relation to alpha males characteristics is that he always wants to achieve the best and strives to achieve success as much as he possibly can. He is never satisfied with second best and will always work that little bit harder to make sure he comes out on top.

He doesn't take himself to seriously. Also, he won't take jokes made against him as personal attacks, as he is confident and won't rise to others attempts to make a dig at him.

Sometimes he doesn't answer questions, he often give a non-sensical or a basic response to questions you ask them where you are trying for conversation, trying to find common ground, or trying for report by asking you to guess they are controlling the frame and leading the interaction and keeping their alpha male status.

Learns from his failures. An alpha male is not afraid of failing, as he learns from each experience and makes sure never to make the same mistake twice. He chalks this up as life experience that will only add to help him achieve greater success as a result.

He doesn't care about you, he is self focused, you are there to entertain them, but he is above you.

He can show a nicer side and get away with it. This goes back to not caring what people think. he can be nice, genuine, down to earth if he wants to and on the occasions that he is he gets even more credit for it, he isn't a geek trying to be nice for validation, he is a cool guy who has a down to earth side sometimes.

He is aware of his strengths and weaknesses. This isn't to say that he is afraid of his weaknesses though. Instead, he has developed means and strategies to use his weaknesses to his own advantage and not be phased by them. He knows the things that make him feel vulnerable and develops strategies to avoid them, or deal with them in the best possible way, so as to appear on top of things at all times.

He learns from his failures. An alpha male is not afraid of failing, as he learns from each experience and makes sure never to make the same mistake twice. He chalks this up as life experience that will only add to help him achieve greater success as a result