[QUOTE=SingViet;7866552]I have been reading in amazement how various sinkie brudders here have been:
a. rushing to get officially married to a vb
Dont Rush to get officially married to a VB. Understand them well and have some trust in them and let them have some trust and understand you well before settling in.
b. buying gold and jewellery to please them
I never buy gold and jewellery to please them. i told them feeding them full is way better than wearing gold and jewellery around to show off. Told my gal and her parents too.
c. working hard to move into new house and even worried about little details such as a Welcome Back Home signage!
As for this, i never think of so much details. Of cos must have housewarming session leh.
Let me just list a few things here that is Guarantee to make ur life with ur VB into a big FAILURE (and not success).
1. Give them as much money as they ask for.
This one i always bargain, even told my gal that after marriage, i give her mother how much per month which is very little because her mother is still working in hometown. Hence give a little is ok liao and if need help in buying new washing machine, i can chip in to help. Told my gal that i thinking for the future also and for our baby also.
2. Treat them very nice, peel the prawn, open the door, push the chair... etc
Nope, my gal peel prawn for me, but of course when see my phone see got gal pictures esp vn gals, will question me.dont really like me to take photo of vn gals when dining in the local restuarant.
3. Worry very much about impressing them and letting them know u really care about them and will do whatever they ask u to do.
I did show to her parents and her that i care, but only to a certain extent. They understand and only ask me to help out if can.4. Sending them for various training courses... English, Chinese, Hair dressing... etc etc.
Nope, i did not send my gal for courses. She can practice by talking with me either on bed or go jalan jalan...
5. Being 100% loyal to them beyond any reasonable doubts.
100percent loyal to my gal, i think so...but not 100percent lah...though is high enough to warrant bro deptrai4u to issue a worrying signal for me...
In fact, those things ur mother taught u about treating a girl... if u do exactly that... there is a very HIGH chance ur relationship with ur VB will FAIL miserably and very fast and soon asking urself "what did i do wrong to deserve this shit????"
Haha...my mother did not teach me leh...though she dont allow me to sleep with my gf in my room in singapore...i assure her that nothing will happen...
By the way, was shocked and surprised that my gal dad has facebook account and added me.