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Originally Posted by Penguin23

I'm divorced, just like you. But the kids come with me, I do not give my ex-wife a cent.

Basically the ex-wife is entitled to ask for a variation of the maintenance, but she may not get it. It is her who needs to apply to prove why she needs more, your only role is to prove your own living expenses and income.

Even though your ex-wife can show that her application sounds legit (i.e. kids living expenses has indeed gone up in the last 10 years, along with everything else), but it does not mean that you need to go hungry. Just be truthful and back up your income documentation/expenses as much as possible and the judge will accord you an outcome that it fair

Remember, it is not the role of the courts to make you go hungry and destitute because of a maintenance order. If you really cannot afford, the other side cannot force you to give

thanks bro for the advice and encouragement