[DO_YOU_BJ]

Snowman, your friend has only 2 ways to wake up.
Many years ago, when I kenna my karma which I penned down before & I'm sure senior samsters like Gor Gor Otur shud remember, it was almost the same.
Of cos, I never go and send food and do all that, maybe i damn EGO lor, so that part i feel very lao kui.
One way, he will just have to battle his own demons and own lies then he'll wake up.
When??
Took me 1 fucking year to get the courage to walk back into the nite scene again, but this time, no more heart!
Yes, I have changed till some friends call me heartless or inhuman.
2) He will just keep hugging that HOPE and live and die in his own dreamland. Means, your friend will just fade away as a casualty and no hope of coming back! A defeated player to the extreme! 4yrs is a long time.
I know someone who still harps on his SO CALLED true love and carries his laptop around and shows everyone all her pics.
Nope I stopped all contact with that person liao cos he is also someone who is like your friend!
Let nature take its course on your bro, if it was meant to be a lesson learnt, let him learn it.
If it was meant to be karma, let him suffer for it like I did.
And if it was meant to destroy him beyond salvation, then let it play its own couse.
As a bro, i think you and your kakis have dun your best liao.
Now just pray.
Remember, bring a horse to a river, fucker dun wanna drink, push his head down he die die also wont drink.
If your friend wanted to move on, he wud have.
But the actions like buying Bday present and say not from him, this also tell everyone that he made a conscious decision that he wishes to stay in his dreamland and there's nothing anyone cud do!