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Originally Posted by lurpsexx
I'll start by saying :
Pull factors
initially due to excitement of paid n non spousal sex, the thrilling chase of another woman, the satisfaction with a unfamiliar partner, the re-fresh feeling of being in a new relationship, etc..
Push factors
Relationship issues with spouse, due to kids problems, in laws problems, financial problems, work problems, lack of communication, disinterested spouse, relationship cooled / not talking, sex no longer sensual just go thru the motion, spouse dislike our behaviours, spouse undergoing menopause, etc
I strayed initially due to tasted the forbidden fruit during my virgin ktv night out, then meet some like minded guys here in this forum for ktv outings, then went further abroad for new experiences, then tried local hook ups..
Starting was thrilling, due to the fresh experiences, n was addictive.. significant money was spent gathering life's forbidden fruits, n memories forged.. but in the end, I was stopped when my escapades was found in my phone, n my family significantly affected..
Till now, tho nothing much..
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you should let go of your family to let them have a better life. at this point i think they deserve better. your post is so ironic and hypocritical. first you made a decision to get married and be committed in a monogamous relationship.
then you broke that trust to eat outside. didn't even do it properly and got caught. now suffering the consequences of your own actions. and yet you sound like you're resenting the noxious reactions of your family? but this is entirely your own doing no? what makes you think that actions have no consequences? whatever push pull factors are all just arbitrary excuses.
further more i dont know if your "significant money" is known by your family or not. if it is, they will hate you even more because one of your so-called push factor is financial problem. so clearly the solution is to spend money in a ktv right? LOL
and its even more ironic that your post wasn't to ask for help on how to make amends. but to ask if you should stray again in a sex forum. the very reason why your family is in shambles in the first place LOL LOL
you are just waiting for the tiniest chance for people in a sex forum to enable you so you can avoid the real problem. LOL LOL LOL
should man up and get a clean break and provide financially. both parties will be rid of each other and you can ml/fl/escort/geylang all you want with nothing stopping you. why stay and basically continue to destroy the mental health of everyone? your kids are your literal flesh and blood leh.
and always remember consequences. the shittier you treat your family now, the higher the chance they will bite you back next time. especially when you're elderly.
not trying to be a justice warrior. i love to have fun myself. but there is a giant difference between having fun responsibly vs irresponsibly.