How do you guys deal with Perimenopause wives??? big headache, no sex no appreciation

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

Bro Dodgekenji

There are many post in this thread that already talks abt women and their behaviour. What u going thru is not unique and happens to many.

Guess u don have children so to me, it will be a easier way to let go without thos part of the burden. However I do sense u love your wife that's being a reason u wanted to reunite and relight the spark.

For me, I have question myself did I ever love her in the first place when I decided to carry on with my next step. My relationship with my wife is not a usual one. Our relationship was build more on commitment rather than love from the very first day. Anyway, I have to move on that's how I get to what is best for me at my age. I can't say I did not have good sex in my younger days yet, I had know that she does not enjoy it as much as I do during those day, and is only now I see that it actually happens to many other women. So is not her sole prob. Is the nature of all women.

For now what I can say is, acceptance, moving on, enjoy the moment. For me, I always think I am a man with 1 leg inside the coffin, so why bothers so much any more.

I recall once there was this lady who told me, get a live. I start to think, by moving out of the house, live alone, is that being getting a life?

I am not rich, yet I had a pretty good life thus far. So, I can only tell myself, heaven is fair. I can't have everything and is not fair to give me all the best thing�� If I am to live this life without having a true love, then be it.

At this moment, maybe u can think abt your self esteem, how to look good.

I am bless with a youthful look. Even at mid 50s, I believe I attracts more attention from women now than before. I believe if u try to take yourself to the next level, u will be able to find life to be more enjoyable. Who knows when u have build up yourself, getting more attention from other women, your wife may get jealous and comes hunting back on u ��

Cheers

nice words bro

Thank you for sharing

over the past year been questioning myself a lot as well.

Then just realised, really, have to learn to live life the way i want it to be and dont be so stressed up by the wife..

[dodgekenji]

Maybe you are right in getting ourself fit, as for your FL, I do not have the spending power like you because career is going through low tide now.

[dodgekenji]

Maybe you are right in getting ourself fit, as for your FL, I do not have the spending power like you because career is going through low tide now.




[QUOTE=cbkia222;24249663]

Originally Posted by dodgekenji

Hi bro, I am also doing some sport to get some energy and attention off from my sexless marriage. I do not know about women, but I felt that men need to make love so that they feel wanted or loved by women. When wife does not even want you to touch her then that means she is no longer interested in you. Let alone communicating to you. Maybe she looked down on me or simply feel that no need to do so much already since has a family.

I brought it up once that maybe we should get some helps. She told me off dont be silly and waste money and waste energy keep thinking about sex and relationship. After that time, I did not bring up.

Now, we seldom talk and communicate, she is always watching her phone and I just do the same too. I sleep on floor and child sleep on the bed with her. There was once I sept on the bed, but she kept using her phone and i find it akward that I pretend to be asleep.

Like I said, no one I can talk to except putting words here in the forum.

I also do not want how to make myself not to think so much where our marriage is going to end up.








Hi Bro, know that you are not alone here .

I dont even get a hug or a pat on the back from my wife . used to it.

as for sex, SBF has always been there for me, so even when i dont get it from my wife , its something that i can buy.

but its the emotional aspect ( i went through the gongtao period from ktv/ siam diu girl and that was painful), that i guess is lacking.

For me personally, i am throwing myself into work and also keeping myself fit ( focusing a lot on my mental health and spending money to keep my mind straight, and yes, FLs do help me keep my mind straight and its a worthwhile investment cos it fills up my soul).

sometimes i wonder, is the rest of my life going to be like this? this scares me...

[dodgekenji]

I do have children. Maybe I have to learn to think like you, no need talk so much about love and care, just focus on committment and kid. BUt sometimes, in your brain, you tell yourself this, but when you see her and cold attitude, you get very upset and angry too.

I do have good sex withher when we were together before marraige.

Your words are really encouraging and you did enlighten me that fact there one leg in coffin, what more can I ask for now. Maybe whever I get depressed I will come back to read this message to get some comfort.

Also, you are right if no sex lead to breakup and living alone does not mean you can get another one who knows you. Especially with our age.

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

Bro Dodgekenji

There are many post in this thread that already talks abt women and their behaviour. What u going thru is not unique and happens to many.

Guess u don have children so to me, it will be a easier way to let go without thos part of the burden. However I do sense u love your wife that's being a reason u wanted to reunite and relight the spark.

For me, I have question myself did I ever love her in the first place when I decided to carry on with my next step. My relationship with my wife is not a usual one. Our relationship was build more on commitment rather than love from the very first day. Anyway, I have to move on that's how I get to what is best for me at my age. I can't say I did not have good sex in my younger days yet, I had know that she does not enjoy it as much as I do during those day, and is only now I see that it actually happens to many other women. So is not her sole prob. Is the nature of all women.

For now what I can say is, acceptance, moving on, enjoy the moment. For me, I always think I am a man with 1 leg inside the coffin, so why bothers so much any more.

I recall once there was this lady who told me, get a live. I start to think, by moving out of the house, live alone, is that being getting a life?

I am not rich, yet I had a pretty good life thus far. So, I can only tell myself, heaven is fair. I can't have everything and is not fair to give me all the best thing�� If I am to live this life without having a true love, then be it.

At this moment, maybe u can think abt your self esteem, how to look good.

I am bless with a youthful look. Even at mid 50s, I believe I attracts more attention from women now than before. I believe if u try to take yourself to the next level, u will be able to find life to be more enjoyable. Who knows when u have build up yourself, getting more attention from other women, your wife may get jealous and comes hunting back on u ��

Cheers

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by dodgekenji

I do have children. Maybe I have to learn to think like you, no need talk so much about love and care, just focus on committment and kid. BUt sometimes, in your brain, you tell yourself this, but when you see her and cold attitude, you get very upset and angry too.

I do have good sex withher when we were together before marraige.

Your words are really encouraging and you did enlighten me that fact there one leg in coffin, what more can I ask for now. Maybe whever I get depressed I will come back to read this message to get some comfort.

Also, you are right if no sex lead to breakup and living alone does not mean you can get another one who knows you. Especially with our age.

Hi Bro,

we are a PM away want to kaopeh or anything can drop me a message

personally, i used to have all these negative thoughts and all, it really sucks.

try this ( this is what i do).
change diet ( eat more jiak por things, those things they say will make your dick harder), i believe those help rewire your brain and help get you out of the depressive mode

mental health is important

[huayingxiong]

Bro dodgekenji/ bro cbkia222,

Life is short, so treasure every moment.

Yes. The attitude the women showed us do make angry, or upset should be a better word. For now, I will return her the same look and start a Cold War 😆 Otherwise, I follow Leslie ChungÂ’s kind word 沉默是金 😜

I leave my mouth to taste good food rather than wasting time arguing.As the saying goes, 赚吃,赚来就是吃.

I agree, by building up our vitality, improve our manhood, thus help us to get rid of the negative impact. For me, I had gotten back my morning erection, which was lacking since donno when. The feel good factor I canÂ’t describe

I do have bad days, like the current month. I just tells myself come April, everything will goes well. CanÂ’t possibly be good all the time, and just endure and wait for good time to come. ThatÂ’s how I survive

PM u my tele, we can chat there

Cheers 🍻

[Khiampak]

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

I do have bad days, like the current month. I just tells myself come April, everything will goes well. CanÂ’t possibly be good all the time, and just endure and wait for good time to come. ThatÂ’s how I survive
Cheers ��

Yeah, keep up the spirit and wait for each other to die. That's it. HAHAHA.
Instead of nonsensical - I love you, You love me, that kind of BS. HAHAHA.
Really, kids these days watch too much Romeo and Juliet. Don't they know all they had watched were a tonne of BS? HAHAHA.

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

Bro dodgekenji/ bro cbkia222,

Life is short, so treasure every moment.

Yes. The attitude the women showed us do make angry, or upset should be a better word. For now, I will return her the same look and start a Cold War 😆 Otherwise, I follow Leslie ChungÂ’s kind word 沉默是金 😜

I leave my mouth to taste good food rather than wasting time arguing.As the saying goes, 赚吃,赚来就是吃.

I agree, by building up our vitality, improve our manhood, thus help us to get rid of the negative impact. For me, I had gotten back my morning erection, which was lacking since donno when. The feel good factor I canÂ’t describe

I do have bad days, like the current month. I just tells myself come April, everything will goes well. CanÂ’t possibly be good all the time, and just endure and wait for good time to come. ThatÂ’s how I survive

PM u my tele, we can chat there

Cheers 🍻

Hi Bro!

April will be better! Think positive!

you're among the SBF bros here

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Only matured guys writing. No small big women interrupting here and just merely readers.

Sometimes i wonder, could these women be lesbians, who are very comfortable in hugging, touching and licking each other mouth to mouth, body to body, private to private than women towards men?

As usual i would prefer talking to hk-guangdong women than johor-indo women. I not so interested to use my left right brain talk to normal women who only knows certain languages. Ah zua yong simi wei kong? Tia boh xi tia boh.

But your wife you need to squeeze out your fried brains to convo your crap para para sakura language okay! Even to ginna, tolong!

Awaiting for other ang mo and KL advises. This localised kampung language and culture really cannot be compared to other countries' states.

[huayingxiong]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi Bro!

April will be better! Think positive!

you're among the SBF bros here

Yes think positive. Tmr will be better

[cbkia222]

For the guys still reading.

few bros have PMed me and had a good chat

majority of the time somehow these wives are literally boarderline emotionally abusing us ( husbands/ fathers), literally guilt tripping us and all.

Assuming you guys here are doing the best that you can ( i know some really useless guys, dont do shit at home, wives handle everything ) for your family,

I've come to realise that if you can somehow overcome this " mental mindset", ie, " I, as a husband/ father, have done nothing wrong", i think there will be a lot of underlying mental stress relief .

I somehow forced myself into this mindset earlier this year, literally just stopped blaming myself for each time my wife is mad at me over the smallest stupidiest shit.

Been feeling much better mentally and physically.

Also thanks to SBF here too la

Anyway for guys out there in similar situations, SBF brother hood is here for you

For myself, divorce at this point of time is not an option ( still young kids), so everything that i am doing now, is for the sake of ensuring i am mentally and physically healthy when that time actually comes and i will fight to keep my kids ( wife and go kick rocks)

[cbkia222]

Was just watching some tiktoks on women and their perimenopauses and all.

Shows how women are " victims" of their hormones and that their husbands should be supportive and understanding.

Gotta love the biasness in this world!

what they prob wont show is the collateral damage done by these women just cos they cant handle their hormones.

No one will ever forgive a man for " rage issues" cos he has too much testosterone. he will be immediately deemed an " abusive" husband.

Anyway, there are lucky husbands out there who's wives are better at handling these hormonal changes

for those like myself and a few others here, better off finding out own support else where so ensure we dont go crazy! haha

[alea]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Was just watching some tiktoks on women and their perimenopauses and all.

Shows how women are " victims" of their hormones and that their husbands should be supportive and understanding.

Gotta love the biasness in this world!

what they prob wont show is the collateral damage done by these women just cos they cant handle their hormones.

No one will ever forgive a man for " rage issues" cos he has too much testosterone. he will be immediately deemed an " abusive" husband.

Anyway, there are lucky husbands out there who's wives are better at handling these hormonal changes

for those like myself and a few others here, better off finding out own support else where so ensure we dont go crazy! haha

Totally agree! Am in similar situation too. Wife is big hypocrite. Every time she say want to communicate more, it will only be one way and that is to tell me what to do more.

I’ve given up on getting any sex from her. Financial circumstances don’t allow me to go for ML/FL. I’m happy with my left and right hands. Haha

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by alea

Totally agree! Am in similar situation too. Wife is big hypocrite. Every time she say want to communicate more, it will only be one way and that is to tell me what to do more.

I’ve given up on getting any sex from her. Financial circumstances don’t allow me to go for ML/FL. I’m happy with my left and right hands. Haha

hi bro.. yeah man!

Wife told me " we need to communicate", then she say her shit. then when i say my shit, she blows up and starts fight! Women.

As for ML/ FL, i hope you strike 4D / Toto or you come into financial success soon!

for left and right hand.

www.eporner.com

www.missav.ws

best 2 sites ( missav now has subtitles). haha

[huayingxiong]

During my younger days, when I complain abt my counter part, my pal will always says, u donno women mey. And my answer will always be, yes, I donno women.

At my age now, I double cfm, I donno women. ��

For me to play a little Ah Q, I will tell myslef and others, what my pal and others had been thru some 20 yrs ago, I am only facing it now. So, I had some 20 yrs of gd life liao

Be strong.

Go for left hand, right hand, FL, ML, WL as long as mentally we survive lol��