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To be honest it's still the same for me . Lucky for me we didn't have any children , but she was abusive . She didn't know I would keep records and bills to back up my claim. To her bruises will recover. I didn't have to pay any alimony as my lawyer advices that if she did that, I could counter it by showing proof of the abuse done over the years . As some instances police was involved. I feel for you bro , it's not easy but you will stronger .
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Wa lan eh! Bros, u all marry what kind of wife? Machiam ex Olympic Taekwondo 4 Dan black belt? Can beat you up until bruises. Got check got kana any internal injury or not? Sounds damn scary
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That said, I've always been preparing for a divorce. But so far, things worked out and I'm still married. |
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I did not detect anything but that from the lawyers I consulted, whether they were male or female. Their interest in your case is purely professional. That said, from my small sample size of 2, I get the distinct impression that these professionally accomplished women have a strong disdain for women who make it their mission to take money from men rather than work for it themselves. |
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Have you two talk about the flat? Who will get the flat? The flat is the major issue.
In terms of maintenance of kid, the judge won't bankrupt u for it. Don't worry about it. The judge expects the mother to be self sufficient to take care of the kid. If she not capable of earning money to support the kid or have mental issues, u have the advantage of taking custody of the kid. The flat ownership needs to be agreed between both of you. U can easily prove that u contribute more than her with the figures. And this will help in paying off her share without hurting your pocket. If she demands the flat, then she has to pay your share. If u wan to be mean, go for 80/20 share. Let her pay u alot or get little of the share. |
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TS,
i always hold the view that a kid, or kids must have parents around when they are growing up it destroys them to not have a full family if your abusive wife has control of the kid, it is likely the kid grows up to i. hold a biased view of you, whether you care about it or not, the kid grows to be like her mother (siao, easily triggered, biased, quick to blame others etc) ii. abnormal character, as he/she will frequently be compared with or make own comparisons to her peers and feel like an oddball. High chance to turn out to be a delinquent iii. lack of a father figure leads to more complications for the kid - if its a son, likely to turn out gay or become a transgender, misfit. If daughter, likely to bear deep distrust to men and marriage, hatred being a constant companion in her life due to the mother's influence etc You have not been a father before and this is your first chance. It's a beautiful journey. Be the Dad your kid can be proud of, and his/her best friend. Your natural instinct of a Protector will be rekindled. Would staying on for the sake of the kid be considered, if ever again? Your post have painted your wife in a bad light but would you be able to have a more balanced outlook on your marriage with her? Hell, we all have wives that are emotionally unstable, which living specimen on earth bleeds for 3 to 7 days and still stay alive sia??? Fucken depressive if you ask me...
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In some cases staying together is better for the child/ren, in some cases a complete break is. What is important is that the adults keep a clear head and stay calm. |
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Go for uncontested if possible.
For me, the court mediator helped to lower maintenance to about 1/5 of my salary. The plaintiff was looking at 1/3. You will grow stronger after divorce and more HUAT when all the negative energy are gone! |
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be proactive.joint the kids school watsapp group. when wanna register for pri 1, need your approval as well. there ia a form. don give chance and be there for the kid. if she don allow you to see the kid and not following the court decree, bring it uo to the court. divorce ia between you and your ex. children shouldnt suffer. wheb it is your turn to visit or spend time with your kid, do spend time consistently and treasure every moment |
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imagine after a hard day work and when you reached home, her day just started ! how to not die |
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Before marriage, it's a glass of grape juice. Sweet sweet and sweet some more. After marriage, you better hope this glass of grape juice becomes wine otherwise you will end with a glass of sour vinegar. I'm lucky I didn't have an abusive wife like this poor bro but if you ask me, which version of my wife do I prefer, the answer is clear, the unmarried one. lolz.
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How is that misinforrmation?
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If we go 50-50, basically I stand to lost around 70k of what I put in, no cash and everything go back cpf. And she will gain a 6 digit figure amount. Have went for my Free first consultant, lawyer is saying this is Abit unfair for me to split half since I have put in financial alot more. Suggest I take 65%, but my wife will definitely refused this percentage. She claim her lawyer say under womans charter, when divorce she will get the house. No need pay me. Smlj. She seems confident to claim alot because she got a friend gain $200k over a divorce for a 2 or 3 yrs marriage. All these stupid rare story. I just thinking how NOT to end up in contest divorce, stupidly pay $15000 onwards for this. Wife can be stubborn as she believe she deserve ALOT because of her wasted youth. |
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I haven't felt like a father since she started being so controlling and hot tempered, everyone dunno anything, only she knows. Nanny also dunno shit. None of my suggestion can be listened to. She has a zero mistake policy for everyone. This is how bad my marriage with kid has turned out to be. It's just getting worst and I feeling I can't even protect the kid anymore from this micro controlling woman. Hopefully the kid grow up and prefer to stay with me. That's all I can wish for. |
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Can I ask what is court mediator? The person to negotiate on my behalf? I don't think I stand a chance to negotiate with my wife and get her to agree on anything. 1/5 of salary is alright. It wouldn't affect life too much. I believe 1/5 is based on the gross amount ya? |
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