good, happy lasting marriage?

[Enzo]

I have read many stories, a lot of sad ones unfortunately, and I know there are members here who have been in many years in good and happy lasting marriages (with its share of ups and downs of course) and whom have steered away from temptations. My question is, how do you bros or sisters make your marriage last despite its downs and temptations?

I'm not married myself so I don't have any experiences to share in this area, but really wish to learn from those who do have such wonderful marriages what they do to make their relationship and marriage work out. I believe that most of the married bros here do wish to be in a happy lasting marriage and make their wife happy, thus at the same time, hopefully, your experiences and advices may be able to help some of the other bros here too who are keen to help their own relationship and marriage.

[BushTracker]

I think you are asking in the wrong forum man!!

My take is, most of married brothers here are lacking something at home and thus try to find the missing elements outside. Maybe it's just me . .

[SexCult]

Member for coming to 6 years already and you havent learn a thing from all the post ... or registered 6 years ago now bring out to use

[xiao mei]

Should check in flowerpod forum ... bros here cheongster ... mostly not fulfilling life from marriage .. if they are married ... most will say dont get married

[NoFearSg]

For me, although married for only afew years, our marriage is stronger as time went past. You need to have patience and tolerance in the long run. If really frustrated and angry, think first and don't say those nasty words or feelings else women tends to remember them and keep at heart.

cheers

[天龙八步]

Wanna have a long lasting marriage .... number 1, dont come here and get entice ... and wanna have many dishes ... else anytime kena caught, thats the end of marriage ..

[t123]

no happy marriage lah believe me. It only hapen in fairy tales and movies which make you wanna believe. Even my dad whom I always thot never chiong also kenna go JB for a long period, passport stamped until no pages left in the end confess to my mum. My mum LL.

If having family is not so stressful and pressurizing, why so many redlights. then no job for counsellor, family judge, lawyers, social workers, dating agencies, and affairs. For me, if I having an affair its becos i cannot take it anymore. Its not that I cannot control my urge, rather, the ongoings is killing me completely. I need to stay alive.

[hotdick69]

hahahaha in life u can never get everything u want lah.....

how do u define Happy marriage????

for me i am happy lor...... even though at home dont get enough for my hunger.... to me happy means u lead a normal family life at home..... but settle ur needs outside before u go home..... just remember to clean your mouth

I believe here got alot of Bros are good fathers and Hubby..... but when it comes to needs.... then no choice look for outside if at home cant settle or not because of needs keep fighting and arguing also make ur life unhappy... but my rule is no matter what happens..... must go back home

just my 2 cents

[SexCult]

Members here ... if really got happy marriage wont be here liao .... so asking the wrong sample populace

[jng1103]

Haha... it's like asking those ahpeks at GL Lorongs NOT to pcc or watch porno

If u want to have a long happy marriage, rule #1: Quit SBF

[myst]

Ts, haha so many wet blankets.

1 thing I've learnt, never take your partner for granted. There's also a lot of give and take. Tolerance and patience are good virtues to attain. Compromise is the word at the end of the day.

Communication is key. Otherwise how else to convey your feelings?

You must realise that you and her are individuals and have your own perception and thinking. Not everything you do is what she wants and vice versa.

And then there's the balance you need to maintain when to assert and when to be consultative, else you be labeled as a wimp.

It's never easy, especially more so for the man. However, once you get the balance right, you'd be in bliss. There's no real formula for a successful marriage cuz everyone thinks differently and have differrnt ideals. You have to weigh and gauge as you go along. Just like another bro mentioned how do you define your happiness? Different people have different level of contentment.

Last but not least, good luck in finding their other half.

[xiao mei]

Dont F around , once you do that, its no longer happy marriage ... tat y must F ard. Even if you say it is, dont bluff yourself, anytime you get caught, its over ... trust will be lost.

[HayHot]

Way to Long Lasting Marriage ?

1. Keep your Eyes Half Close.
2. Keep your Ear Half Open.
3. Keep your Mouth Half Shut.

Applies to Both side.

[xiao mei]

Bro HayHot, men expect women to do that, but we ourselves cannot achieve it leh ...

[t123]

Originally Posted by xiao mei

Bro HayHot, men expect women to do that, but we ourselves cannot achieve it leh ...

Sis, sometimes its good to do that, like that life easier. Like me, only report the good. Like that less friction, less abuses.