How often does your wife give you sex?

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by virtuallyinlove

Not really. I don't know to open up and tell him about it. To him I maybe low sex drive. But that's towards him only. Coz im not.

Communication my dear. It appears that the two of you need to work on your sex life by searching for that long lost love first then hopefully the juices will start flowing again. Do you still remember how it was when you were dating him?

It sounds like something has wedged between the two of you & this prolonged cold shoulder to your husband will do no good for your marriage. Please save it as soon as possible for your own sake & don't walk away from it.

[Serenade]

Originally Posted by virtuallyinlove

As a married women for 3 years. me and my hub hardly make love like before. we hardly even kiss now. we still love each other but i just don't like it when he touches me. i felt that he is being rough and he hardly satisfy me. we still do at least have sex once in a week or worst two weeks once. every time after the first round, he cum and asked if i want it again. always i will said no. I'm not even half way there. the problem was with me i guess. i think I'm kinda sick of him in bed.

Your largest and most sensitive sex organ is your brain, and not your body. Once your brain is turned on, the rest of you will follow. Teach your man to flirt and seduce your mind first before sex, and you will enjoy the act.

[weihc]

Originally Posted by virtuallyinlove

Not really. I don't know to open up and tell him about it. To him I maybe low sex drive. But that's towards him only. Coz im not.

but like that... you are not even giving him chance to improve, change. or you already condemn him or made up your mind about his "performance".

[sadhubs]

Seems like many people are facing this problem. And seems like being loving and communicating with the wife is the most advocated medicine.

I was there before. I was angry, hurt and frustrated. Then I read about this advice. I tried. Do more housework, being even more caring, talk more. It worked. For all of 3 months. Then the expectations increased. The low sex came back. Increased the caring etc at the expense of my own time. No listening to music, no reading a book so I can give more time to the wife. Worked again! And 2-3 months later, guess what?

I think it takes 2 hands to clap. And as men we have to be realistic about our wives. They are not sex machines, but neither are we love gurus. The sad thing is this "romance" idea that has gone into high drive. The social expectations of men and the fast judgement of men who don't get it from their wives. You are not caring enough for her. It's not always one party's fault, and there is no universal medicine for a recurring bad cough.

I have not strayed. Nor do I intend to. But all I can say is my resolve is not holding up very well as this drags on. Sometimes you get reduced to a beggar. You just have to take what comes when it comes. What dignity and love is that in a marriage?

Sometimes I can see she is trying and I feel bad. But when everything damn thing takes priority over you, clean the house, wash the clothes, pack the rooms, shop for this, fix that, someone's birthday party. We'll have it on Saturday night. And you know all too well anything can happen on Saturday night. Flu, tired, (heck even "forgot" has become an acceptable reason), someone's someone passed away. It gets very disheartening.

Trying to be a good husband. But it is not easy.

Sorry for ranting...

(no she is not cheating. she is just too busy cleaning house with me helping)

[kraam]

i find other men's wives to give me sex.

[VillagePeople]

Originally Posted by IcyBalls

You need to communicate to your partner your reasons, not just brushing him away

This way he can do what is necessary to up his game, else he won't know

I would agree on this train of thought

[Marlborolgt]

If we never had sex for 5 years can i take that as a reason to divorce? Any legal advice here.?

[parrotkid]

Originally Posted by Marlborolgt

If we never had sex for 5 years can i take that as a reason to divorce? Any legal advice here.?

Seriously? That long?
What happened bro?

[sadhubs]

Originally Posted by Marlborolgt

If we never had sex for 5 years can i take that as a reason to divorce? Any legal advice here.?

Wow bro! I hope you have a way out so sorry to hear this......

[yoursecret]

Originally Posted by sadhubs

Seems like many people are facing this problem. And seems like being loving and communicating with the wife is the most advocated medicine.

I was there before. I was angry, hurt and frustrated. Then I read about this advice. I tried. Do more housework, being even more caring, talk more. It worked. For all of 3 months. Then the expectations increased. The low sex came back. Increased the caring etc at the expense of my own time. No listening to music, no reading a book so I can give more time to the wife. Worked again! And 2-3 months later, guess what?

I think it takes 2 hands to clap. And as men we have to be realistic about our wives. They are not sex machines, but neither are we love gurus. The sad thing is this "romance" idea that has gone into high drive. The social expectations of men and the fast judgement of men who don't get it from their wives. You are not caring enough for her. It's not always one party's fault, and there is no universal medicine for a recurring bad cough.

I have not strayed. Nor do I intend to. But all I can say is my resolve is not holding up very well as this drags on. Sometimes you get reduced to a beggar. You just have to take what comes when it comes. What dignity and love is that in a marriage?

Sometimes I can see she is trying and I feel bad. But when everything damn thing takes priority over you, clean the house, wash the clothes, pack the rooms, shop for this, fix that, someone's birthday party. We'll have it on Saturday night. And you know all too well anything can happen on Saturday night. Flu, tired, (heck even "forgot" has become an acceptable reason), someone's someone passed away. It gets very disheartening.

Trying to be a good husband. But it is not easy.

Sorry for ranting...

(no she is not cheating. she is just too busy cleaning house with me helping)

So true... feel like always last in queue

[sleepygordon]

Originally Posted by Marlborolgt

If we never had sex for 5 years can i take that as a reason to divorce? Any legal advice here.?

Divorce based on Unreasonable behaviour...but before you even want to consider that, you either should go for counseling or prepare pre-divorce actions such as determining how much your household is spending per month, and if your marriage is more than 10 years be prepared to share at least 50% of your asset with your wife. There are a lot more things to do...PM me if you want a full list.

[Spector69]

3 times a week sometimes less.

[HelloAngel]

Originally Posted by Marlborolgt

If we never had sex for 5 years can i take that as a reason to divorce? Any legal advice here.?

You need to be staying in separate rooms at least for 4 years to proof that you have been living separately. Mine wasn't this reason but it was classic cos the divorce papers was served to my ex-hubby while we were both still staying there.

Not everything is 50%. Just matrimonial assets like house, car, shares, etc. Your savings and cpf cannot touch. Be prepared to pay alimony unless she earns more than you. Child maintenance is a must.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

You need to be staying in separate rooms at least for 4 years to proof that you have been living separately. Mine wasn't this reason but it was classic cos the divorce papers was served to my ex-hubby while we were both still staying there.

Not everything is 50%. Just matrimonial assets like house, car, shares, etc. Your savings and cpf cannot touch. Be prepared to pay alimony unless she earns more than you. Child maintenance is a must.

Very informative !..T.Q. v. much sis for sharing & helping out bros here with yr experience & knowledge of divorce laws here in SG ...so nice & thoughtful of you ! ...deeply appreciate !

[A1406]

Originally Posted by Maxlion

If ya other half can reject u for sex...

No point carry on if u gonna be with her forever..

Sex is meant for doing with ya loved one..

It plays a very important parts in the long run..

I agree with u no sex no point to stay on the marriage. I used to be very upset that my wife rejected me when I wanted sex from her. Even worse recently she Chu even more patterns giving all sort of excuses to reject me. But lucky sex still can "outsource" and now I look for sex outside and are more happy than begging my wife for it. Dun think that I will "beg" her for sex anymore.