Does your wife/gf's past ever haunts you?

Aviator · #1 23-09-2005, 12:28 PM

Hi bros out there,
Was wondering how many of you ever felt the way i m feeling now? I mean i've never been lucky enough to have a virgin girlfriend and when i have put in so much effort and love in a relationship, she tells u of her past, who she lost her virgin to who she has ever slept with eg" b4 she is with you she is with a married karang guni man " etc. Does these kind of past scenerios ever haunts you? I keep telling myself its the past but realise its just to difficult to swallow. COmments/advise anybody? thanks

foolish_ · #2 23-09-2005, 12:41 PM

I always advocate, if u can't handle the truth, then don't ask for the truth.

Many times, Ignorance is Bliss.

yanki1 · #3 23-09-2005, 12:44 PM

bro live for the future la. for me i love my gf lo so i dun ask about her past and she dun ask about my past. as long as shes not a 'he' in the past can liao lo

bro u got to turn your thinking. if you think this way, very difficult for things to work out. during quarrals, you are bound to bring all those stuffs up and made things worse.

i know how it feels if she were to tel you how she did it with her ex and how she enjoy it. or worse, that she ever did gangbang b4. so the best is not to know. look at things on the brighter side. you will be happier....

do not expect your gf to be a virgin if you are not one yourself.

just my views.. not pointing at anybody in particular

forumer · #4 23-09-2005, 01:11 PM

you have to live with it.

Everyone has a past. But that's not important, what's important is the future and now.

MMM88 · #5 23-09-2005, 01:13 PM

yo....if you love someone his or her past (in relationships that is) should'nt b an obstacle to you lah....
cum on ....be realistic lah......u expect to find a wife or gf to be a virgin(yeah , maybe a minority will get it)...BUT , in tis century....wake up n smell t coffee ....b real ...
virgin or not ....who's her bf (b4 u) .....does it matter so much ???
I used to have a gf ....her ex is a gangster....so what...we were together and after a few years ...we broke up (not becos her ex was a gangster)...

BUT.....if my gf or OC tells me tat her EX is a BETTER Lover or BIGGER Dick ....i will definitely b angry (maybe bang my head to the wall) lah.......hehehehe....heng ah....so far never happen yet......

So relak ....n dun tink too much yah.....life is short ...b happy with the one you love....cheers

rocket cheongst · #6 23-09-2005, 01:27 PM

dear Aviator,

As a lot of bro's here mention, most gals have past here, unless all get married to thier puppy love which is almost impossible.

i would rather not asked if i cannot swollow it... but most of the time i would not probe too mush, you would not want 'her' to probe too much into ur past do you??

Just my humble opinion....

Aviator · #7 23-09-2005, 01:33 PM

Thanks for all your advise. Maybe i m a real MCP lor. My mean its normal for man to Poke around but cannot tahan other man to have poke my girl b4.

winger_tag · #8 23-09-2005, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Aviator

Thanks for all your advise. Maybe i m a real MCP lor. My mean its normal for man to Poke around but cannot tahan other man to have poke my girl b4.

If you say like tat, then no amount of advice or counciling will chang your mind set. first of all, you must be able to set your mind to receptive mode, receptive of advice and reasoning.

Rof|maoxz · #9 23-09-2005, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Aviator

Was wondering how many of you ever felt the way i m feeling now? I mean i've never been lucky enough to have a virgin girlfriend and when i have put in so much effort and love in a relationship, she tells u of her past, who she lost her virgin to who she has ever slept with eg" b4 she is with you she is with a married karang guni man " etc. Does these kind of past scenerios ever haunts you? I keep telling myself its the past but realise its just to difficult to swallow. COmments/advise anybody? thanks

Bro, I think I know you right??

Isn't this topic discussed X times? Anyway sometimes it's cruel to know the truth, especially those imitate ones with their Exs. I do not know what's your rationale of having a virgin gerfrd? Chastity, clean, pure or innocent? Of course we men would like to possess a virgin gerfrd for those reasons. But on a flip side, do you accept a virgin gerfrd who treat you like a dirt? To advise you from creating another Q & A thread again. End of the day, both of you will be living together for long. There are other more essential issues beside this "huanting of the past thingy". If you can't conquer the first hurdle, I suggest you to continue in searching for a gerfrd with less problematic history.

forumer · #10 23-09-2005, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Aviator

Thanks for all your advise. Maybe i m a real MCP lor. My mean its normal for man to Poke around but cannot tahan other man to have poke my girl b4.

i encourage my gf to tell me her previous (sex) stories... then i hear already sometimes fed up a bit inside but dun show it. In a way, I get turned on as well and the sex after the story telling is usually better than normal...

#11 23-09-2005, 03:31 PM

some virgin gals might hv smelly CB can u accept ?

some are too ugly that no want wanna try can u accept ?

I rather hv one that are comfortable to my eyes and sweet and nice CB

jon2000sg · #12 23-09-2005, 03:37 PM

if you worry and bother so much about the past,
jux stay single and be a cheongster all you life lo...

Lanz · #13 23-09-2005, 03:48 PM

Bro Aviator:

No offence... but likewise your partner had to suffer the fact that you've did other gals before her (if you did)...

imho, i guess you are partly worried that she may not have you solely on her mind with regards to sex and related matters? i believe if she does love you truly, you'll be the only man in her mind day in day out so work hard on this!

Don't worry and don't think too much

cheers

lanz

euphoria777 · #14 23-09-2005, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Aviator

... I keep telling myself its the past but realise its just to difficult to swallow....

May get zap by Aviator, but can't help spilling my 2 cents worth...

When her past haunts you, it shows that u are suffering from inferiority complex and lack of maturity.
Why???
Lack of Maturity - In this age and time, unless you look for your dream gal outside the gates of primary schools, where to find virgin??? (oh hang on...got...those fat and ugly and no character ones may still be virgins....you want?). Also, only pple living in stone age bothers whether their gals are V or not....
Inferiority Complex - You worry that she will compare? Whose dick longer, who can fuck better, who can make her cum more times???? If you are confident of yourself, you dun have to be bothered how many men she had before.

Lowell · #15 23-09-2005, 04:43 PM

well...just as I am able to accept the girl's past, she does not have to rub it in my face all the time.

My take on it is that its whether the girl chooses to bring her past into the relationship.

I had a girlfriend once....who never ceased to talk about the time she was some rich man's mistress etc. etc.

Another one, who liked to talk about her previous ONSs.

Trust me, these relationships did NOT last.